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Ive got no friends and its really getting to me i cry every day and i dont understand what ive done wrong. Ive got a husband of 10 yrs who i couldnt live without but i cant talk to him, if i ever snap at him (very rare) he goes all moody when all i want is a cuddle and reassurance, he feels like another one of my children i care for. I have 6 children, 4 natural and 2 adopted that have complex medical needs and ever since i adopted the first one people have been distancing themselves from me, people ask how he is but i can see them glaze over when i give the answer so now i just say his fine to everyone even if hes in hospital on a breathing machine. Now i have another little one with medical needs no one wants to know me at all, even people who encouraged me to have this little girl have abandoned me both family and so called friends. i just need someone to talk to
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sunset17
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I think it is important to point out that a person does not get depression from not exercising. There are millions of people who are obese, have poor diets and don't do any exercise a week who don't get depression. On the otherhand there are people who have active lifestyles and healthy diets that do get depression. It is true that exercise can help to improve the symptoms of depression, and it is a great idea to get any exercise that you can when you can. However for many people when depression is at is worst, just to get out of bed and take a shower seems like a marathon. I know myself how exercise has helped to keep me positive as it does make you feel good, but it is something that needs to be eased into gently and only when the time is right. Be Happy
designergirl12
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I think that now we all know the extent of your difficulties in your life we can all do something better to help.
I take it that these children are not your natural ones and you have adopted? you are so brave and courageous to give of yourself so much and it is only natural that you want something back in the form of friendship in return.
Do tyr Homestart, I know the name is bait confusing as you are not starting a home but it is a form of help and someone to talk to. xx
kerry77983
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My husband left me for another woman . Then my son had to go into a specialist home for children with epilepsy over 45 miles away when he was just 7, as he had no risk awareness and he was getting injured with the seizures all the time. After being a full time carer for years I then lost my home. I did courses and decided to become a Social worker to try and give something back. What a mistake as it's extremely stressful. In the last eight years I have found it harder and harder to remain doing agency work for social services and since July I have not worked. I am either suffering with CFS or depression or both but I'm so fatigued I can't do anything.
Rosie what I will say is that social services are well aware of the difficulties carers face and they are there to support you, they won't just take your children from you. Don't let yourself reach crisis point you need some respite from your caring role and you and your husband need to have some me time to enable your relationship to stay together. I use to go to an evening course or try a carers centre where you can meet people. The difficulty is when you have children with disabilities everyone struggles to get time out.
I am now in the position where I don't fit in with anyone. I recently fell out with all my family as they have not been to visit my son for 8 years and I had, had enough of staying quiet. I am to ill to go out and have recently been started on anti-depressants however I am planning on moving nearer my son when I am better and I am going to get a less stressful job even if it is a lot less money. I will also go back the Gym. Look after you Rosie in order to be able to continue to look after your children x
libby70387 Rosie13600
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I wonder if you could read a bit about borderline personality disorder & see if anything seems to fit. Â So many people suffer for decades for failure to receive a correct diagnosis. Â BPD is actually called a "good new diagnosis" these days because there are very effective therapies -- dialectical behavioral therapy in particular. Â Good luck, dear.
rachel15304 Rosie13600
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smart Rosie13600
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I wish, U get good phase in your life soon, I want to see you, happy.
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