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When and how do talk to my GF about my anxiety

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redbeard
redbeard

I have been seeing a girl now for almost 3 months and things between us have been going well. I have told her once that I was feeling a bit anxious and she was warm and kind in how she handled it. The problem is I am anxious 95% of the time and i want to tell her that I am anxious about her and how I worry that my anxiety and depression will end up ruining our relationship. Or she will see that I am just a mess and not worth being with or that she will think less of me and loose respect for me or want to leave me. Is it too soon to tell her that I have these thoughts and feelings and that i worry almost constantly, should i tell her that Ive reached out to talk to someone? Ive screwed up too many relationships in the past and I dont want to mess this one up too because she is wonderful

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  • jan34534
    jan34534 redbeard

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    sorry you are going through this I know how it feels. Also sounds like she’s a great girl. If she is, then she will understand. She’s not going to think you’re not worth it. Also, don’t think that way about yourself because anxiety is something that happens to people very frequently. it’s not your fault.

    make sure you are being honest with her. The worst thing people do sometimes is start out a relationship with a lie and that just messes everything up. relationships should be built on trust, openness, and honesty. those are the strongest relationships!

    If you are going to therapy, tell her that if you’re not don’t say that you are. Actually, I would highly recommend you speak with a counselor or therapist who can help you manage it.

    you don’t have to tell her immediately about the anxiety. Get to know each other a little bit but don’t wait for a super long time to tell her. If you feel like telling her now that’s fine.

    I am way older than you I’m sure and one thing I learned in life is that if it’s meant to be it will be. If she decides she can’t handle it then it’s best to know sooner rather than later. If she decides to stay, then that’s wonderful. We are not in control of what other people need or want so we have to accept that but if you two are a Great Match then you will be together.

    three months is a very short time to know someone. It takes at least six months to decide if we really want to be with the other person.

    but I do hope everything turns out OK for you. Also, if you have a great deal of anxiety, YouTube has some great breathing exercises, specific for anxiety, and also some great meditations for anxiety, to calm down your mind and body. But if this is really affecting your life. Please consider some counseling. They see people with this every single day, and they know how to help!❤

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