when did you start relations again

We tried 9 weeks post but no success,then again at 10 weeks but still no joy. Tried again after the physio said everything was ok and nicely healed ,that was at 14 weeks post op,we did manage it with a lot of lube and patience but it wasn't the best of experiences to be honest. It feels like they have sewn me up too tight. Had another try last week and it was a bit better,so I suppose it's just a matter of time before we are back to how we were before. Going to the hospital on Thursday so will mention to them how difficult it has been resuming our sex life. Hope you have more luck in getting back to normal x

Good question!  I am 7 weeks post op, seeing surgeon today so will find out!

We eventually booked up a weekend away just by ourselves and after a good meal and a few drinks and armed with lots of lubrication we managed OK. That was 13 weeks post op.

Hi again everyone...well, my 7 week post op exam went well, little pain except my doc located a stitch that has not yet healed and I felt a definte pinch for sure.  She said ok to get physical, both in mild walking and husband type but go slowly, be careful, it will take time...  Also, she reminded me to not lift anything heavy at all and when lifting anything, tighten the pelvic floor every time to help protect.  Boy have I ever learned a lot in this journey and the biggest thing is that I don't care if my heart falls out, I'm never doing this again!  I hope all of you post surgery are taking it easy and all of you pre surgery listen to all of us who have already been there.  This takes a long time to heal and it takes a lot of patience to get there.  My problems are solved...no more bulging and no more urgency.  Onward to great health!

thats great news Barb I think I am a little more impatient lol with everything I guess! its just over 5 weeks and seems so much longer. I went shopping today first time my son did all the packing and lifting and have cooked a meal this evening and feel quite worn out .. as for the bedroom well I guess I shall just have to wait a while longer until I feel it will all be more comfortable. 

x

Well, I am 3 weeks and 2 days post op and I am very impatient. I know I have to be, but it just  sucks going from being sexually active to absolutely nothing. I decided to be playful in the bedroom last night and put my man's finger inside because I knew he would get excited about how tight it was. It's so sensitive, in a good way. I definitely have stitches but I am glad to know it is working well and it's all worth it. I can't imagine me waiting past 6 weeks if all is well. I will wait for my doctor to give me the go ahead first though.

Hi,

I'm 7.5 weeks post op and tried for the first time last night. They had told me in the hospital 6 weeks. It did feel ok, although I was very nervous so not as relaxed as usual. My hubby was brilliant, so patient and he said it definatley feels better. Before sex was almost impossible with my bowel bulging so far into my vagina. It wasn't as sore as I expected anyway and so nice to feel intimate again after such a long time. Just take it slowly and I'm sure things will be fine x

I am 11 weeks post op and go back Wednesday to have first check up its been a long slow healing process and still don't feel right, plus I know I have to go back for a hystrectomy and anterior prolapse op!! (I went in for a posterior prolapse) still feel to scared to try having sex will let you know what consultant says x

We had another go yesterday (very impatient me) and was ok although worried about tightening myself on him incase the insides are not quite ready as have read that it is a few more weeks before even trying pelvic floor exercises.

my main problem is i still feel like ive been kicked by size 15's up my butt :-( before i even tried bedroom antics!

Your brave x