When will all of this be over ? How long does this misery last?

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We all complain about the same feelings

No appetite

Not being able to get out of bed

Weird sleep patterns 

Anxiety

Crippling fatigue 

Health paranoia

Depression

So on and so forth....

But nobody EVER talks about how long this lasts for .... it can’t go on forever can it ?

I’m not myself anymore and every day is like climbing a mountain ... daunting dark sad. 

I see many women living normal lives ... doing things ... holding down jobs 

When will we finally see ‘the light’? 

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  • Posted

    Thank you for posting this, I too wonder the same. Let's hope it ends soon for all of us.

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  • Posted

    Yeah I just saw an acquaintance at the grocery store and we were talking about jobs and told me I should be looking for a better job--which I DO!!!  But I told her I can't get up in the morning or just plop back to bed for another hour or so..  She looked at me funny, like really?  She's older than me too.  How can I learn a new job, when it's hard to function already?   And 3 nights  in a row I was up from 2-4:30 am!!  Why?  I have no idea--  I begged my brain and body to go back to sleep but it wouldn't!!   I wanna be 30 again!!

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      It’s so cruel.  I do not sleep well either. Up 2-5 ish..sometimes night sweats.  I take out the dogs, throw some laundry in.  But at 6am, I can fall asleep no problem.  Need to be up at 7 though!   30 was great!  Never knew how good I had it 😁

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    Hi Lori - exactly how I feel, too.  I see women around my age seeming to be happy and enjoying life and I’m so jealous.  The hormones have to stabilize at some point.  This can’t go on forever.  Praying this ends soon for all of us.
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    Whatever you do girls DONT Google how long the symptoms last..... I just did, and I can't unsee it. I guess the answer is to find the right treatment. We may have to accept that this is the new us and start looking at getting the right hormone therapy. Seems like it could be a long journey for some.... I for one am not doing it treatment free! Big hugs ? xx

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      Sassy I know !! I think it said 10 years !! I started Peri I believe at 41 and have had 10 years of trying to adjust but it’s nothing like this ! I’m on the patch and helps with fatigue a bit but not the moods. 
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    Hi Lori, I am seeing a new gyno on Tuesday... I am going to ask just to see what she says!  Then, I will respond again.  We should all just ask at our next Drs appointment and compare answers.  Maybe we can all get a laugh.  Let’s just hope it’s not infinity plus a day!  Ahhhhh! 🤪

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      Well as my mom keeps telling me .... you are ‘unique’ so it’s probably different for all of us . They can tell us when it starts which is 51 for most women and that’s when I started really badly .... so why can’t they tell us when it gets better ? 
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      Well, seeing how most drs look at us like we are aliens when we tell them our symptoms.  It would also help if they could at least acknowledge that they are hormonal.  Instead of always pulling the anxiety/depression card.  Acknowledgement is the first step to treatment!  I was stunned to see a recent article that one of the planned parenthood clinic in NY is helping women beyond birth control and child bearing years.  They are now treating menopause too.  This is important and hopefully will catch on.  Women need to be educated on this!
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      Planned Parenthood...but it is good that they are bringing awareness to the  issue and will treat women.  Some of the women they see are confused enough about pregnancy...let alone menopause.
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      I'm in Australia and read that article couple of days ago. I think it's a fantastic start but can't see it happening here. Nobody mentions menopause in Australia and if you do people just laugh as if it's this ongoing joke. It's been no joking matter for me. It's been the hardest thing I've ever been through.

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    I also see woman leading normal lives and it bothers me. I've been through a lot of symptoms, but lately I'm just plain old cranky and negative and I just can't shake it, I do my very best to keep my mouth shut as I don't want to spread it, but sometimes it comes out, then I feel guilty for being a b***h.

    As far as working, I go every day, work as hard as I can, so don't let all things fool you ?

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    Thank you for posting, I feel the same.  I had to get on antidepressants 5 years ago at 50 years it helped!  Fast forward Im 55 and BOOM anxiety crazy symptoms again.  I had gone off the antidepressants 2 years ago.  Im trying to go the natural route with vitamin supplements but its a roller coaster.

    I used to love to take naps, but now i cant... I'm tired but the feelings when I wake up are just not worth it. So I exhaust myself, drink CALM magnesium at night to try to sleep.

    Ive stopped telling my family how miserable I feel...Im sure they are glad.  This is HELL and I really have no reason to feel this way- that even bothers me....I should be enjoying life now that there are no tragedies in it.  On a positive note I am starting to skip periods maybe for my 56 (in Nov.) my body will gift me with the end of cycles and hormone stability.sad

    May God bless us

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