Where do I turn?

all you can do is send them back with a covering letter informing them that he is no longer at that address and you will forward any future letters to the police with a complaint of harrassment

Hi sandy.

How sad he's left you and your Daughter in this way..

I know he said don't contact him but surely he has to meet his responsibilities.

He had made these debts not you could you contact him to tell him to change his address. It would be for his benefit as well as yours. You won't have to deal with it and he will get his post.

He can go to the post office and have it redirected for six months for just under £40 I don't know other prices all he needs to do is fill in forms at certain places.

Its irresponsible of him to leave this with you.

If he is uncooperative The C A B may be able to help you.

You seem that your stuck and can't move on until late these things are done so to speak to him or even write a letter to him.

Tell him your Daughter would not want the stress of seeing men turning up at her home that he can stop now. He's a responsibility to her!!!

Im Feeling for you right now.

Remember if the debts are in his name they can't take your things once he's left. He no longer lives there. If they do turn up tell them his new address they will write it down. Probably go there. They'll get that for future reference.

Take care

Vicky xx

Hi Sandy so sad, suggest returning the letter to the court recorded delivery advising that he no longer lives at your address and tell them where to re direct it too assuming you know where he lives.

Best of luck Neil 

Hi Sandy - You're feeling punished because you are a whirlpool of emotions after an ubrupt and disruptive end to your 20 year relationship with that man. Your life is sad and lonely at the moment because you are making a transition - from a landscape of turmoil to a clean slate where you can start again. It's not easy - but it's worth it. Hind sight will prove that to you.

As regards the court letters, do what you have been doing, send them back marked "not at this address." I would assume that if he continues illegally parking - and whatever else - and getting tickets, the bailiffs will come. Tell them the situation - he walked out on you and and your daughter, the relationship is finished, he doesn't live there anymore and will not live there again. I would suspect that if he continues dodging his fines a warrant will be issued for his arrest. 

Meanwhile, soldier on. Forget about a reason as to why he left - he probably doesn't have one that isn't totally selfish. Stick to your path of non-contact - he has chosen what he wants and he wants it without you or your daughter. You're better off without him. Things will get better, you'll get stronger, and a new life will open for you. Don't let the letters upset you - they are not your problem.

Go forward and than turn right.