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Where known, do you feel your "giver" should apologize?

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FelizCastus
FelizCastus

Where you know exactly who gave you genital herpes (GH), whether knowingly or not, do you feel they should be remorseful and apologize? Would that make any difference to you?

Obviously, it's far worse when they knowingly have GH, yet took no precautions and infected you. That's downright criminal, imo! But what if they honestly didn't know? Then again, how can you know for sure that they didn't?

Personally, even if someone had no idea that they have GH, I feel they should nevertheless be remorseful and apologize once it is confirmed that they infected you. Common decency and all, or is it unfair to expect that? In any case, it would make a difference to me.

Curious to know how other "receivers" feel about this.

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  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus

    Posted

    While we all need to take responsibility for our own participation in sex and relationships, it doesn't change the big picture that we were GH-free before, so remorse and an apology are fair, imo, and the very least the "giver" can do. This is a "forever" virus, after all!
  • ouch109
    ouch109 FelizCastus

    Posted

    Yeah, i see the point. I am sure the culprit in my case had no idea.

    I was just diagnosed and am filled with shame and guilt. I know my ex's would be too. Although i am sure they would be remorseful, i wouldn't want them to feel this way. Its a sneaky terrible virus, we are all victims.

    Of course i would feel different if someone knowingly exposed me

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus ouch109

      Posted

      If I unknowingly infected another, I would likely feel horrified, awful and really sorry. But it would seem there are some folk out there who don't feel overly concerned about the person they infected, even if supposedly unknowingly (but, yes, much worse if they knew and did nothing about minimising risk), which is just adding insult to injury.
  • noelle2212
    noelle2212 FelizCastus

    Posted

    If they didn't know, then yeah a sorry etc would be sufficient. I personally am at a good place with this and I don't even feel down anymore. It's something you can't change so being upset in my eyes is only causing yours lad harm...

    The guy who gave it to me didn't know. And I was upset and mad at first but I just told him the other day that I'm

    Not mad. Stuff happens and that could have easily been me passing it on and not knowing and I wouldn't want wow Mone hating me for it... Gotta find forgiveness. Having sex is taking risks... And this is one of them.. Just gotta deal

    • noelle2212
      noelle2212

      Posted

      Anyone* sorry I guess I was typing fast lol
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus noelle2212

      Posted

      Agree, but I haven't received an apology, nor will I, which has kicked off a new sense of rage in me that I've not felt since getting this. I am forgiving when people are nice or deserve it, etc., and I'm also anything but when they are rude and p*ss me off!!
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