Why do i feel so scared?

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Hi ladies, I really hope you are all doing better than I feel right now. Lately, Ive been feeling scared of my own company as it gives me too much time to think and ruminate. I feel as though I'm not strong emotionally and I'm often fearful about my future and life in general. A grown woman aged 49 who feels as vulnerable as a child. I know there's no real answers to this, it's just the menopause or in my case, just depression which was well established many years before the menopause. Granted, my depression starting getting worse when I started the menopause, so I think it's fair to say that it has some bearing. The problem, or rather, the question I have is:what dyou say or advice do you give to someone who is already on tablets to treat depression (myself)? there is no answer to that. Donna x

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    I used Bach Remedies to get through those times. You can use them safely alpngside your meds. The two I used for fears like you are having are "rescue remedy" and "cherry plum" i think you might get good results with these. You only take a few drops a day and they take care of the fears.

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    Hi Donna

    Many of us feel the same as you do from time to time.

    Do you have anyone you can talk to?

    Junie

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    Omg I’m like that too!!! I hate it!!

    I find myself just driving around and wasting time just so I don’t have to hone alone .

    This is the complete opposite of who I am that’s why it feels so weird . I normally can stay alone and at home all day and night it never bothered me before . It’s like we are never at peace with ourselves or relaxed .

    Hopefully this will pass... it has to as I live alone and must deal with it . 

    It happened to me at 41 too then I leveled out after many months . 

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      Hi Lori, thanks for your reply. Glad I'm not alone in this. I know how horrible it is! I never used to think or feel like this. Maybe, it's an age thing!!! Knowing my luck it's a second childhood! That's all I need, lol xxx

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    Hi Donna....first if, big hug! I so understand what you've written;I can empathize because I've been where you are. I am ten years older than you. Depression and anxiety hit me when I realized my 3 kids were now adults on the own...the near was empty, as it were. Scary stuff when you've identified with being a mom. I was 47. Lost my job to technology the same year everyone moved out, so there's that. Hated it, panicked when alone. Couldn't stop wondering what my future was going to look like. Is this it?, is what I thought. I made myself feel worse! My daughter was returning to school to complete her master's degree and to get me out of the house , she suggested I go with her. I ended up enrolling to finish my own degree, and I have now been teaching elementary students for 9 years.

    My next act just fell into my lap.

    At one point since then, I was talking to my sis and mentioned thatI was actually happy, but I feared depression might hit again, to which she responded"then you will handle it again- IF it happens".

    So.,dear Donna...I would say to you revisit the things that used to bring you relaxation and joy, and do them again. Doing that takes you out of your head and keeps you in the present. Exercise to break a sweat, aromatherapy baths, funny situation comedies, action movies, girly magazines, and above all, writing down my fears and literally submitting them in prayer by sticking them in my journal, are some of my go to things. For me it is a concrete way to "give it to God".(please forgive me if that offends- not sure of your beliefs)

    But you will be ok. Keep visiting the marvelous women on this forum and I'm certain that you will take away something that will help you through this peri meno journey we are all on.

    😘

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      Hey Katy, thank you so much for your reply. What I understood and took from your post is that it is never too late to redeem oneself and achieve if you wish. My children are also adults and I find myself thinking how fast they've grown! My husband had a stroke 5 years ago, so I also have a caring role. I just sometimes feel a bit lost. Thanks again honey, God bless, Donna xxx

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      Amazing story! I think that's me. I ready to begin my second act. I was worried about what I would do after retirement. Then out of the blue I realized I wanted to be a freelance wedding photographer! I researched it and cannot wait to begin. I do want to take a year off though.

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      Thanks Katy!  My mother used to say that too! (she passed 34 years ago, but I always feel she is watching over me, probably trying to tell God what to do! Lol!!). So I feel like that is God's confirmation that I'm in alignment with what he wants me to do.biggrin

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    Hi Donna.  As I read through the posts it is amazing how many of us are so much alike.  I am 46.  I’ve been taking AD for years. All the peri stuff started about 3 years ago and I haven’t felt “okay” since.  I mean, i say I feel okay but rarely do I actually..  we have adjusted dosages etc for the past couple of years but nothing changes.  So here I sit eating chocolate bunny grahams and my puppy on my lap.  We got him about 8 months ago and he has definitely helped keep me busy.  
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      Hi there, thanks for taking the time to reply. Chocolate and a puppy. I can't think of a better combination! I bet your puppy is a is adorable,! If you feel a bit down you can give your puppy big cuddles. I got a kitten a year ago. I have she's super cute but since I started letting her out she has fought with every cat in the neighbourhood! Xxx Donna x

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