why do i hurt the ones i love

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Ok, so I have depression again. I've been ok for many years but it's back in all its gruesome form. I know I will get through this again but the toll it has taken on my wife, whom I love so much, is devastating. Not sure if leaving her is best thing to do for her sanity and for the kids. I just can't stand by and watch her being mentally destroyed by me and my selfish condition....

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    The most positive thing you have right now is you know you need help and are prepared to seek that help.  I've been on both sides, had it myself and I got better, spent 6 months inside the house unable to get out due to anxiety.  Husband has left myself and our kids, he's been gone 2 years and almost 3 months he remains untreated is now drinking and with an alcholic woman he has chosen the path destruct and the untreated Depression has destroyed what was a lovely and happy marriage and family.  You will get through this and beleive it or not you do need the love and support of your family.
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    Thanks Simon, sadly I am one of millions many in far worse situations, I count myself very lucky hearing what others are going through.  Take care and keep on going, it's a hard battle but with perseverance you will get there.
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    Have you asked your wife what she would prefer you to do?

    I would imagine her reply would be a major indicator of what you should do.

    You sound to be a lovely person, I know you will do the right thing.  Be strong and fight that demon.

    Wishing you the best,


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      Hi Pat,

      I spoke with her when the depression first hit me hard a couple of days ago. She said she needed time to take it all in. I understand this, we have four children to also think of. When I look at my wife's face it reminded me of the sheer he'll I must have put her through. It's very difficult to make a good judgement call when your going stir crazy. We talked tonight, was sooner than I thought we would talk and its helped so much. Hoping this will continue.

      I will keep you posted on my progress smile


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