Posted , 3 users are following.
Why is it when you feel crap inside but make the effort to go out people always say you are looking really well. Is it meant to cheer you up, because at times it makes me feel ten times worse
1 like, 11 replies
Posted , 3 users are following.
Why is it when you feel crap inside but make the effort to go out people always say you are looking really well. Is it meant to cheer you up, because at times it makes me feel ten times worse
1 like, 11 replies
We want the forums to be a useful resource for our users but it is important to remember that the forums are not moderated or reviewed by doctors and so you should not rely on opinions or advice given by other users in respect of any healthcare matters. Always speak to your doctor before acting and in cases of emergency seek appropriate medical assistance immediately. Use of the forums is subject to our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy and steps will be taken to remove posts identified as being in breach of those terms.
stephen60337 Desperate_now
Posted
take it for what is is a complimnent , try not to over analize things, if they said you look reall crap that would be bad :<)
how we react to other peoples comments are in our control,
we choose either to take there comments literally , or we can choose o dismess them as just banter, and most of it is banter like talking about the weather,
dont take it to heart , dont react to it , just smile and say thank you , and forget it,
most people ask if your ok, we often respond with yes even though were not, we dont discuss is as it isnt the time and the place, neother should we dwell on it,
you made the effot to go out, well done, now make the effort to ignore and not take things onboard and im sure it will make you feel better,
stephen
how="" we="" react="" to="" other="" peoples="" comments="" are="" in="" our="" control, ="" we="" choose="" either="" to="" take="" there="" comments="" literally="" ,="" or="" we="" can="" choose="" o="" dismess="" them="" as="" just="" banter,="" and="" most="" of="" it="" is="" banter="" like="" talking="" about="" the="" weather, ="" dont="" take="" it="" to="" heart="" ,="" dont="" react="" to="" it="" ,="" just="" smile="" and="" say="" thank="" you="" ,="" and="" forget="" it,="" most="" people="" ask="" if="" your="" ok,="" we="" often="" respond="" with="" yes="" even="" though="" were="" not,="" we="" dont="" discuss="" is="" as="" it="" isnt="" the="" time="" and="" the="" place,="" neother="" should="" we="" dwell="" on="" it, ="" you="" made="" the="" effot="" to="" go="" out,="" well="" done,="" now="" make="" the="" effort="" to="" ignore="" and="" not="" take="" things="" onboard="" and="" im="" sure="" it="" will="" make="" you="" feel="" better, ="" stephen="">)
how we react to other peoples comments are in our control,
we choose either to take there comments literally , or we can choose o dismess them as just banter, and most of it is banter like talking about the weather,
dont take it to heart , dont react to it , just smile and say thank you , and forget it,
most people ask if your ok, we often respond with yes even though were not, we dont discuss is as it isnt the time and the place, neother should we dwell on it,
you made the effot to go out, well done, now make the effort to ignore and not take things onboard and im sure it will make you feel better,
stephen
>
norma72045 Desperate_now
Posted
stephen60337 norma72045
Posted
if i have a sore foot they would have a broken leg and reslish in telling you,
most peope offload, its a healthy way to cope, by telling someone you feel better, i offload but only on my dog who is very understanding and doesnt judge me,
if you dont offload it builds up and can make you feel unwell,
its why people do it , lol
norma72045 Desperate_now
Posted
Desperate_now norma72045
Posted
i believe the letters f.i.n.e can stand for something but I cannot remember what.
I'm feeling really sorry for myself today.
norma72045 Desperate_now
Posted
Desperate_now norma72045
Posted
i don't really dwell on my mum because she was 86 she had had a good healthy life it was just mobility problems and moans about my brother. She was only really poorly from the Sept when my eldest (yes he was the favourite although she never showed it,) went to university in London and we live up north.till she died in the Nov. she was in hospital the last 2 weeks. She had been on her own since 1981 when my dad died and then came to live near me in about 1998, she used to come every Sunday for dinner but never really did put on me. Some of my friends who are now having a really tough time with elderly parents, but I feel they didn't appreciate what I was going through 4 years ago till now. I am always asking is there anything I can do to help them.
thank you so much for the hug I really appreciate it as my husband is way till Wednesday and my two sons live away one in London the other at Brize Norton RAF base.
tomorrow will be better as I have to get up early because I am dong my voluntary work in a church mission cafe.
You take care.xxxx
norma72045 Desperate_now
Posted
Desperate_now norma72045
Posted
norma72045 Desperate_now
Posted
UK-Ven-medicate Desperate_now
Posted
Join this discussion or start a new one?
New discussion Reply