why is it?

hi

take it for what is is a complimnent , try not to over analize things, if they said you look reall crap that would be bad :<) 

how we react to other peoples comments are in our control, 

we choose either to take there comments literally , or we can choose o dismess them as just banter, and most of it is banter like talking about the weather, 

dont take it to heart , dont react to it , just smile and say thank you , and forget it,

most people ask if your ok, we often respond with yes even though were not, we dont discuss is as it isnt the time and the place, neother should we dwell on it, 

you made the effot to go out, well done, now make the effort to ignore and not take things onboard and im sure it will make you feel better, 

stephen

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how we react to other peoples comments are in our control, 

we choose either to take there comments literally , or we can choose o dismess them as just banter, and most of it is banter like talking about the weather, 

dont take it to heart , dont react to it , just smile and say thank you , and forget it,

most people ask if your ok, we often respond with yes even though were not, we dont discuss is as it isnt the time and the place, neother should we dwell on it, 

you made the effot to go out, well done, now make the effort to ignore and not take things onboard and im sure it will make you feel better, 

stephen

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Hi, wow I couldn't agree with you more. You make an effort to be pleasant and polite,they know your problems ( and I'm talking about my family. ) and they say               " you look really well" and I can tell you you have more patients than me, because I feel like giving them a slap.   What do these people want, you don't complain because that's boreing and they don't really want to hear you droning on, but if you complain about how you feel they see you as depressing.     What do these people want ahhhhhhh.

That makes a change that made me laugh.  I used to do the same when I had a dog she knew all my feelings.  My husband puts up with a lot from me, but even him if I keep quitet all day he,ll go. " you've had a good day today haven't you love " I just say to him " don't say that when I've got a knife in my hand " his answer " why" But Haveing said that at the end of the day, there's only you that knows how you feel.       I just give up now and when people say to me " how are you " I just say " fine " ha ha 

You sound just like my youngest son, I have 3sons and my youngest is the kindest, sweetest person you could ever wish to meet,and he really understands me, don't get me wrong he's not soft with me, but he always ask how I am, if I say not well he'll listen to me.  But my other two never ask, and if my husband says to them your moms not well they say " why what's wrong with her " der. Over the last 6yrs I've been on a life support machine twice, and they say " what's wrong ". I don't think they don't care it's just they are probley a bit thoughtless. But the youngest also works in care.  He is one of the most empathetic people I know and that's with everyone. I Sincerly am sorry about you loosing your mom, but please don't beat yourself up you know you done your best.  I think when we loose someone close to us in our lives, we all have some regrets,but the way I try to look at it is hindsight is all well and good . Now don't worry about things you can't do nothing about.  Cheer up here's a Big Hug from me.   Tomorrow will always be better.   Take care 

I didn't mean to upset you,and as for your brother being the favourite ,isn't it always the way the one who does the least is always the favourite. It was the same with my eldest brother, still that's the past.   As I say there's only you that knows how you feel. So keep your chin up and try to laugh more.  My husband and I laugh more now than we ever have.      Take Care 

I think you goto just understand its a compliment. Sometime it can be a sincere thought other time it can be empathetic in that they know you have had it tough but you managed to get on. either way they are both postive things for you to take on board, you cant afford to be takinganymore negatives on board do you.