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Why is tonight so hard

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Myrissasauras
Myrissasauras

I've been going to my therapist for a few weeks now,and we've figured out that males leaving me is one of my triggers. When I was small my dad left us for long periods of time and my mom would go off the deep end with depression so as a child I had to take care of her and had nobody but myself. He would come around so often and I would ask him to stay but he always left again. Well my bf that I have now is the only person that helps with my anxiety problems. And whenever I have to leave him I get really bad anxiety(separation anxiety) thanks to my dad. I get scared when he's not around. I don't feel that safe. Especially when my panic attacks come at full force, I can't deal with them alone. Like I am tonight.

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  • lattifa7777
    lattifa7777 Myrissasauras

    Posted

    Oh dear, how are you today? And what did the therapist say is the cure?
    • Myrissasauras
      Myrissasauras lattifa7777

      Posted

      We haven't got that far yet. Just finding out all the triggers. That's the biggest one rolleyes right now I just calmed myself but it's definitely hard to stay calm. Trying to sleep is hard
    • lattifa7777
      lattifa7777 Myrissasauras

      Posted

      I know, anxiety/ panic is the worst feeling I think, not many understand it either, for me what works is making plans for the day. Have you got plans today?
  • jmcg2014
    jmcg2014 Myrissasauras

    Posted

    Stick with therapy,things often get worse before they get easier with therapy but its worth it
    • lattifa7777
      lattifa7777 jmcg2014

      Posted

      Oh gosh, so even with therapy things get worse yo start with??? Oh boy!!"
    • jmcg2014
      jmcg2014 lattifa7777

      Posted

      Its a good sign,there's nothing worse than being in therapy and you feel nothing, that's really infuriating
    • lattifa7777
      lattifa7777 jmcg2014

      Posted

      I guess so, just get scared of feeling crap again!!!! Not that im feeling great anyway!!
    • jmcg2014
      jmcg2014 lattifa7777

      Posted

      Exactly, anxiety seldom passes on its own,there's no loss to trying therapy, much more effective usually than meds
  • DavidH1996
    DavidH1996 Myrissasauras

    Posted

    Me and my girlfriend have been thousands of miles apart for the last 11 months, every night we call on skype and I hope she doesn't have to go somewhere late because I worry so much about her safety and my mind starts racing to the possibilities and that makes me get really frustrated at her but I don't mean it at all

    I have only been that way since I learned about my Dad leaving me as a baby, I think it's the trauma of learning about that has given me a similar sort of anxiety to yours

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