Wife is always depressed and have volatile emotions

Most woman carry more burdens than men...most men dont understand a womans monthly cycle ...for me i have too msny things daily thrown at me but on a muvh deeper level than most so ppl tend to not understand me and my patience has worn off cuz most guys just wanna screw me n not actually listen or truly understand

Aron, without getting personal is she at the menopausal stage?  It can start early on for some women. Also, an unhealthy diet can really wreak havoc on your emotions.  Has she had blood work done to be tested for adrenal or thyroid issues?  Also, God’s Word DAILY has every answer to everyday life as we know it.  Coming from a person who spent my 30-40’s in the bar scene, the wisdom you get from the Bible is invaluable.   😊. Many prayers for you and your wife.  I read this to my husband and asked him to comment on who this sounded like.  He was like WOW, that was us.  Don’t stress yourself out with trying to fix her “rant” because at the time, she’s not looking for you to “fix” it, she just wants you to listen.  My husband used to feel hopeless when I went on my rants.  He would be like, I don’t know what you want me to do?  I would say, nothing....I just want you to listen.  As for her paranoia, she probably needs to feel a little more secure, but you cannot fix her inner issues, she must recognize them on her own and have the wherewithal to work through them.  Again, as the Bible says, the truth shall set you free!  Best words ever because it causes us to examine ourselves and those are inner demons we have spent years on trying to suppress usually with alcohol, drugs, unhealthy lifestyles.  

Hi do you think she could be suffering from anxiety and or depression?  It does sound like she might be.  Is this a recent development or has it been going on for a long time?  Or maybe she is suffering from PTSD due to the loss of your child?  it sounds like something is definitely going on but not sure what.  x

I'm not a psychologist or psychiatrist, however, the description of your wife's "moods" hit home with me.  My mother was like this and my sister and my husband is always the "glass half empty" as well as my best friend!  It's enough to make me feel like I am the one who's got the problem since I try to look at the up side of things for the most part!  Like you, I'm used as a sounding board.  And sometimes things can be so volatile that it's turned on to me in a rage!  I have taken the brunt of the negativity and actually blamed for things I had nothing to do with.  Do you identify with that on occasion?  My sister will try to pull me in to her line of thinking about things so much that by the time I've spent an afternoon with her, I'M DEPRESSED!  It gets so bad that I just try to avoid much contact unless it's on a benign and upbeat subject that cannot be rolled in to a steaming pile of poo!  Lucky me!  So I feel your pain and my only advice would be to try to get her to seek some therapy and go with her in support.  She could be bipolar as by your description of her mood swings, she can snap back out of it.  Bipolar is a form of depression.  It used to be called "manic depression" but the term has been changed.  People who suffer from these mood and emotional swings can be upbeat and "normal" one minute and suddenly become agitated, hostile, angry, sad, or even enraged the next for no apparent reason.  It's a chemical imbalance in the brain and tends to run in families.  It's those neurons that keep us in a sense of well being tha stop "firing" in the brain.  Outside chemical can cause it like alcohol and some medications as well as a traumatic event.  Lots of things can trigger it.  Definitely the loss of child could do it or make it worse.  Professional therapy is your best bet.  Avoidance is not always possible, especially with a spouse.  I always wondered why I stood out on the front porch before walking in to my house when I was a kid and tried to prepare myself for whatever my mother's mood was going to be, testing the climate as it were.  She could be happy and cheerful or she could be angry and you never knew which you would be facing and that's the toughest for a kid.  And if she was the latter, chances are I'd catch the brunt of it.  It reminded me of an old cantankerous cat I had once.  When I made him get down off my lap when he didn't want to, he slapped the heck out of the dog just for being to close!  Good luck to you!   

It sounds as if your wife is really suffering ... frustrated and angry .... which is very unhealthy for both of you.  Please take her to a psychiatrist and he will ask her questions to figure out the cause for all this anger & mood swings. She could just need a low dose of an anti-anxiety medication with an anti-depressant... for a short time... Just to get herself balanced.  It's better to catch it early... then for it to get worse. I am praying for you both. xx