Will viagra work for psychological ED?

Thank you for the reply, Simon. I really do appreciate it. I have been worried because I read a post online that said all the viagra in the world won't work unless you have a physical problem, and that it cannot give an erection to someone who suffers from anxiety, but I later found out that this person hadn't even tried it. I'll be more optimistic now. 

  Hi there GreenD  - you are clearly not in UK!  Here we can buy it on-line and it is either sent by post or sent to our local pharmacy ["or so I am told"] where they simply pass it to you in a pharmacy bag.

I don't know why you should be worried about your penis "having a life of its own"  I cannot think of any reason to want to resist erections!

Hi simonthethird,

Yes I'm not in UK. You guys are lucky to buy such stuffs anonymously.

However, my penis seems to be autonomus. When I phone my lover or think about her, I get full erection even when my parents are around (embarrassing!). I also get long full erection during sleep. But whenever we meet (have met 3-4 times), it remains flaccid (!) even we kiss, hug pssionately, fondle genitals etc. This relationship is first for both of us (& we'll marry soon). I suspect that psychological matters might cause such strange behaviour of my penis. I'm quite frustrated because I always thought myself to be a good performer in bed until discovered my penis' unexpected response.

Anyway, is there any alternative of medicines (viagra, levitra, cialis etc) to cure my problem? Any help in this regard will be appreciated.

There is nothing "alternative" that will work.

"I get full erection even when my parents are around (embarrassing!)".

I wonder if this can be part of the problem in that you have grown up in an atmosphere where your parents are not open about your sexuality?

In other words that your [perhaps unconsiously] feel guilty being with your partner before marriage. 

If it is your first relationship are you saying that you have had sex with women before outside a "relationship"? 

Are you worried about pregancy with your current partner?  Impotence is a first class contraceptive! 

I would guess that the cause is psycological and that you probably should seek some counselling before your marriage.

That's my personal problem I think. I feel shy when other persons are around (except my lover) and I've got erection.

In fact we both decided to remain virgin until marriage. Whenever we met, however, explored our bodies. I'm not saying that I was committed to the decision. I was mentally aroused but my penis, perhaps wasn't. It was flaccid and colourless fluid was discharging. I was indeed eager to show her full erection which I got normally, but surprised seeing this act of betrayal.

I didn't have sex or become intimate with any woman before.

I don't know if this is called impotence. I'm confident that my reproductive system is normal as I've found nothing dysfunctional.

You mean viagra is the ultimate solution?

"Impotence" is simply a term which describes the inability to get an erection when you want one.  It is not necessarily a permanent thing.  It may be psycological or physical [for instance after an operation on the urinary system].

I am perplexed!  You say "I'm quite frustrated because I always thought myself to be a good performer in bed until discovered my penis' unexpected response." but also "I didn't have sex or become intimate with any woman before" - these do not tie up.

I would guess that - underneath - you are worried about your relationship currently.  When you are with your partner do you have  absolute privacy for sexual play?  It really does not help if others are around and may disturb you at any moment.

It may be for example your body is saying [subconsciously] that although you would like an erection you cannot as you might then go too far, have intercourse and that would be against "your" wishes to stay virginal till marriage.

So you are thinking of marriage. Again how is that going to work?  Will you have your own place?  Sexual intercourse can get quite noisy! Again if you are in parents' or parents-in-laws' house that may not bode well particularly if - as you say earlier - you are worried about their reaction.

Have you discussed with your girlfriend about contraception?  Or do you want to leave it to chance?  Or do you really want to start a family at once?  Although perhaps romantic children really  do limit your life and as you have little experience your active sex life may be pretty short or infrequent.  What do you feel - for example - about sex in pregnancy?

That said it may all sort itself out when you marry and can be together alone.  At least you have some idea what sex is about. I have come across people [and this goes to an older generation which perhaps married in the 1930s] who did not know that to have children you had to have intercourse!  Others where the man did not understand that it should be pleasurable for his wife.

If you are young viagra really would be a long stop.  It may work ...

Thanks a lot for your insightful reply.

To reconcile my two statements which seem perplexing to you, actually I assumed myself sexually strong by observing hard erection of my penis. And it's also true that I never slept with any girl before. Our relationship is secret and we can't meet regularly. We met 3-4 times physically when my parents weren't at home. I'm a layman when it's about sex (she is also). Therefore my statements might look like contradictory or strange.

I'm now searching for a job and will marry after getting one. I want to live separately from my parents after marriage.

Anyway, thanks again for your valuable response.