Wish someone would understand me

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Im so lost and dont know where to turn

no one seems to understand me or how im feeling

i self harm n am turning to alcohol more n more to HELP me feel less pain

 

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    First of all why the reason for so much pain you dont have to tell me but tell yourself sometimes pain we feel is never our fault and you have to find a way to lett it all go hopefully your pain is in your past but I think you keep reliving it over and over again you have to forgive yourself for hurting yourself alcohol only dulls the pain never takes it away

    Dont read the first bit but look through the site it has helped me to let go of my pain but everyone is different and feel pain in so many ways message me if you just want to have someone to talk to it is going to still be a long and hard path to take but you have to want to be on it to feel pain free 

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    Ana, like I said, I posted for the 1st time because of your post. Please look at this as a "support group" of sorts. Yesterday my thoughts of lack of worth., abandonment, and despair felt like they were going to bury me. Didn't think I was going to make it through the day. But I did, and very grateful for small victories. From great experience, being a pretty sucessful artist , ( until what we are dealing with) made it so difficult., I drank in a very bohemian, and decadent fashion . And I'm telling you from my heart.., it's one thing when you're happy and content with yOuSeLF, and life. It's quite another to drink to ease the already horrendous feelings that you are going through. Trust me , please when I tell you , that it does, and will in fact make you feel worse, and much worse when the effect wears off. As hard as it seems., and I believe in steering clear of meds to keep clarity., clear mind, and these posts that we are here to support each other , are the simplest and purest places to start in our challenge to get through it. And you do will. That's a fact Ana!!!
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    Dear Anna, I am so very sorry to hear that you are in such torment and desperately

    Unhappy. Have you any family that you can confide in? Or a trusted doctor that you

    Can open up to? ..... the Samaritans are an excellent support network who act in

    Complete and total confidence.... the mental health " crisis team" are also a very

    Good and 24hour source of help... please, please do turn to someone who can help

    You, I know that you probably feel that everything is hopeless and will never ever

    Get any better at the moment, I too have felt that way very many times and I also

    Turned to alcohol. With disastrous results.... but things can change !! Please try to

    Find a spark of hope somewhere xx and turn to someone for help.... my heart goes

    Out to you xx you will be in my thoughts and prayers tonight xx

    I wish you peace of mind and a new start, please keep in touch... take care, sincere

    Best wishes to you,, DEIRDRE xxx

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      I am currently working closely with my gp n health visitor (i have 2 small children) who are being amazing im also involved with a mental health link worker who is pretty useless. Hes trying to say i dont need counsiling etc n im not depressed apparently im just STRESSED! My hv is after a 2nd opinion as she feels i need secondary care but my link worker isnt agreeing.
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    Anna, alcohol is a depressant.  It won't help you.  At best, you will get a hangover.  Are you in contact with friends or family?  
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    Hi Anna go see a doctor and see what they suggest. Do you go out much and socialise, you have any hobbys or friends you can talk to about how your feeling? Alchol is not the right way I know how that feel before i started my medication i would binge drink at the weekends as i felt it was the only way not to think about my job i didnt like, I felt useless and to be honest with you felt like whats the point as not doing what I want with my life. I started drink a few beers during the evenings and new there must be another way. Ive quit my job and have started taking medication again and already feeling am getting back to my real self. 

    If you want to talk to more let me know how you feel as I have a feeling we have both been in the same place, please dont hurt yourself. Really hope your feeling better soon. 

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    I feel exactly the same about my family and friends, from my point of view they don't understand me and they basically think that I've made something up. I try not to drink alcohol becuase this isn't solution to anything. I think I should see my GP and I think this would be better than alcohol don't you think Anna? 
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    I am currently working closely with my gp n health visitor (i have 2 small children) who are being amazing im also involved with a mental health link worker who is pretty useless. Hes trying to say i dont need counsiling etc (despite having a history of abuse, partner commiting suicide, miscarrages plus more) and im not depressed apparently im just STRESSED! My hv is after a 2nd opinion as she feels i need secondary care but my link worker isnt agreeing.

    i am on my 3rd lot of anti depressents which still seem to not be helping. 

    My family try n support me but they dont know how

    i know alcohol isnt the answer but its the only thing that gives me a few hours of feeling good! 

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      Dear Anna.

      You must go back to see your doctor again and ask, if needs be, insist on a second opinion and a consultation with a psychiatrist, you are well within your rights to as your doctor has a duty of care to look after your health, both physical and psychological..

      You obviously have very many reasons to feel depressed and you are

      The best person to know that you are more than just stressed..

      If you still have any problems with being referred to the right help and support that you need... contact you local association of MIND and ask

      For their help, also you can self refer to your local community alcohol

      Service, they will be able to help in many ways and contact your family doctor and explain how much you are struggling... do not give up, you

      Obviously need and deserve help. Your mental health worker does not

      Seem to be any good at all... You have to be able to cope for your

      Children's sakes... I truly wish you much better health and peace of

      Mind.x alcohol was my crutch for very many years, it helped until it very

      Nearly killed me time and time again.. my thoughts are with you, take

      Care Deirdre x

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      Thank u for your reply deirdre. 

      I am seeing my gp on wednesday again so will see where we go from there. 

      Im not keen on seeing my current mental health worker again n am thinking of asking to see someone else instead.

      am waiting to hear from my hv who is speaking with the gp.

      i need to get better for my kids because at the moment i feel like the worse mum in the world sad

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