Wondering if im becomming agraphobic
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Hi everyone
Since struggling with menopause and having to give up work....also of Not feeling up to wanting to do much of anything,i seem to have got where im doing nothing,its suddenly dawned on me how isolated i am....to thé point where im Not even wanting to see my partner(living together 15 years)
Im post menopause age 51...
Can anyone relate,im concerned....
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maria101 lisa326
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lisa326 maria101
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chelo lisa326
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lisa326 chelo
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Just day by day i guess x
juliet91758 lisa326
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I too understand what it feels like to become isolated. I am quite a sensitive type, aged 50 and still peri at the moment. The wanting to stay in and keep to myself thing has happened gradually and has gotten worse over the past 3 years or so. Quite honestly I feel that it might be kind of natural for some of us to want to do that at this time of life. I feel that its a bit like the nesting instinct, just wanting to curl up a bit until it is all over and done with. I have low energy and confidence at the moment as well. I see that you are post meno though. Could it be early post meno where the hormones are still a bit all over the place? If so, the same might apply. I also had to ask myself if I was depressed and if maybe some parts of my life were not as I would have wished them to be, also if there was stuff left over from my past that maybe needed emotional healing. I looked and decided that I possibly needed to see a counsellor. Mine is fantastic and I am so grateful for her support right now. But that's me and may not be you at all. Still, maybe honouring this right of passage is necessary, allowing the need for alone time for a while rather than being down on ourselves about it. I might be inclined to ask myself if depression for other reasons might be in the mix too though. A dedicated bit of talk time, even if it is on the phone, might be useful??? Sending you huge hugs. X x X
lisa326 juliet91758
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looloo43 lisa326
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deidra40034 lisa326
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lisa326 deidra40034
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Rhino2015 lisa326
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Loui
lisa326 Rhino2015
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Yeah iv thought about that....volunteering,thing is,thinking isnt good enough is it....got to make it happen..i didnt opt for hrt as i suffer from migraines,i have Changed my diet( my Body stopped being able to tolerate alcohol,in that One glass of Dinner wine knocks me out for a few days)so Thats out....i really feel different towards my Partner tho....im at a loose end with that One,....and i cant seem to tolerate dirt,germs,that Kind of thing....
Thanks for replying Loui x
T.Sage lisa326
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The right antidepressant could turn things around for you 100%. I know because I've been there and I feel like I got my life back, that I'm myself again. No zombie feeling, just relaxed, more energy, able to socialize again, able to SMILE again. For me it was/is citalopram. I no longer hide from the world in bed, often literally curled in a ball. Please see your doctor. My heart breaks for you.
deidra40034 T.Sage
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T.Sage and Lisa...Citalopram is a good medication, and does work wonders! I have actually been on it for 3 years, recently going through my Mom's illness, and her moving away, has turned me upside down, and will be making a change in the dose I am taking, and will be on my way to feeling much better once again soon! T.Sage is right, it really can turn things around, and help get your life back!! Wouldn't hurt to give your doctor a call. Good luck!!
Rhino2015 lisa326
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Hi Lisa there has been suggestion of anti-dep - from my situation these made things worse - totally took away libido and any closeness with my husband. Off them again and just taking HRT - mostly all good - finally
I found dthey took away sadness, but also joy I was just numb and a non feeling human - buy just my thoughts - they obviously make a wonderful difference to some
Loui