Worried

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So worried I have given my partner herpes. He has a very sore throat but has not mentioned having any tenderness or issues with his penis. Had sex at the weekend and this week I had my first outbreak in 3 years.... terrified but as I said he has had no other symptoms apart from the sore throat. I did have a sore throat with my primary, but I also had symptoms of tenderness, itching, pain, and discharge. I definitely had the tenderness and pain simultaneously if not before the fever.

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  • Posted

    I honestly went through the same thing with my male friend. It was constant oral sex and he had a terrible sore throat for about a week but said it was his allergies. I kept telling him to get checked by a physician and he refused because I think he was more afraid of getting bad news than anything. Even today he has not gotten himself checked and therefore we both have just put it off to the side.
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    What is up with men not going to the doctor?? 🤔

    I’ve had H2 for over a month now diagnosed via blood test. Told the guy i was seeing and he immediately said it could not be from him...we’d been intimate over 3 months. I tried to explain to him that I was not saying this came from him but he still needed to get tested b/c we’d been intimate. He swore he got tested last year and was fine. I told him that they don’t normally test for Herpes in standard testing and that he had to request it specifically. What did he do?! Go off on me b/c of my diagnosis and I haven’t heard from him since. 🤨 I know he didn’t bother testing b/c he would have let me know either way but instead he just avoided it and avoided me. Maybe in a man’s mind “no news is good news”?? 😳 

    • Posted

      Unfortunately some guys fool themselves into believing they can sleep around and never get an STD. We as ladies have to really screen these fellas and see what's up with them. If they really are interested in getting to know you they won't mind wearing protection or going to the doctor and bringing you along.

  • Posted

    You should definitely be upfront with your partner. Let them know of your condition before engaging in intimacy.

    If they are aware of your condition and they engage... then that's on them and you shouldn't worry.

    But if you did not tell them, then you should be worried, cause that's not cool.

    • Posted

      You are very correct about being honest and upfront with your partner or partners. At 41 years of age I had a younger guy only five months ago give herpes to me without telling me. He is facing going to court ordered classes that he has to pay for. I definitely preach it to my daughter's to engage in protective sex and always be aware that not everyone knows what being honest means.

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      I’m 42 and also newly diagnosed with a 20 yr old daughter. She’s a good young lady but I know she doesn’t tell me everything. Since my new diagnosis I’ve talked to her (without telling her about me) about being very careful out here and that’s there stuff you can catch even with protection. Told her to demand proof of all STD testing before going there and if he pushes back then don’t do it. She recently went for her annual Pap test and then I made her ask for full STD testing and to include Herpes. She had the Pap test first then blood test the following week. She comes back and tells me the gynecologist wouldn’t test for Herpes because her pap was negative. She said she asked several times and was told that their office won’t do blood testing unless there was a positive swan. 😒😒 I think that is so ass backwards and they should have tested her if she asked! She came back clean on everything else but I’ve been in her ear about being very careful. I don’t know how many times over the years where men have simply said “I’m clean” and I never asked for proof. 😢

    • Posted

      Hey, he knew and he's fine. Thanks for that, I'm a responsible adult. I think it was still valid to be worried hence why I wrote the post. I was interested in finding out other people's symptoms of their first outbreak and was frustrated as, as I said in the post, I've only had one other outbreak so I felt pretty safe and was surprised to get one. At no point in my post did I say I hadn't told my partner.

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