Children coming to the hospital

Depends on their ages, I personally would wait till the next day because it also depends on what time you are going down for your opxx

They are 7 and 10 sensitve girls, I dont want them to worry more...

Are you having general anaesthetic ? If not I'm sure they will be Ok to see you though as Marilyn says depends on op time . Age makes difference too I know after my hysterectomy my daughter (then aged 14 ) needed to see me as she was more anxious and worried about not being able to see that I was Ok .

Good luck

Denise

I would sit down and have a real conversation ahead of time to let them know that you will be fine and that all the things that are connected to you at the time are to help you get better . If you let them know ahead of time all  the things that they will see and ask them are you okay with seeing mommy like this because its okay if you come the next day. Letting them know ahead is best. The element of surprise is can be devestating.

Hi Rose, I have a 10-year-old son he came to see me in the hospital which lifted my spirits drastically he actually laid in bed with me he was great and happy to be with me absolutely have your children with you.

Scoops

PS don't show him the drain in your leg

Can you not make your mind up on the day. If you are feeling OK, text to your husband to bring them in. They will follow your mood so if you are happy with it they will be. For that reason it might be best to keep the visit short

Maybe you could ask them what they'd prefer. Tell them you'll be sleepy and that you'll have a drip catheter drain etc. But that is all good and to be expected. And each child could decide for herself if she wants to come?

My 11 year old

Hi Rose , 

How are you doing ?  

You know your children best - I had GA and except for IV there was nothing scary showing ... no drains or blood or anything ... 

also depends on how you feel - wouldn't want to make my children sad or upset that I cannot be with them for a couple of days but more emphasize how great it will be that I won't have pain anymore and can do everything together with them again ... 

they feel your concern and sorries, darling - especially when they are so sensitive ... I know it is hard ....

big warm hug

renee

 

If you are doing as expected post op they should be reassured to see you ASAP. They will probably be quite matter of fact about you being in hospital as long as you are. My own daughter was some years ago when I had an op, she came in the following day at age 5 and was trees tend a concerned

Day of surgery NO, next day YES, they will have heard you talking about surgery as did my grandson, he thought they were going to remove my leg, I don't think we made it clear enough in conversations that he overheard that they were going to put in a steel bone, as my own bone had worn out, he had seen for himself I couldn't walk before the surgery. You should have seen the relief on his darling face when I showed him I still had both legs, and could stand up beside my bed, I was able to explain I now had a steel bone in my leg, and walk very slowly on my crutches. He took no notice of the drips and urine bags, he was only interested in my leg, and then asked could he have my crutches when I didn't need them any longer.