Why can"t you work?? What would you say??
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hi
I have been diagnoised with SS for more than 22 years now, I had to give up work for about 3 years now, How do you all feel when even members of your own family do not realize how bad SS can be.
They may not come out and say it , but you know they are hinting at , "Oh well I could work part time", or "Oh no I must be getting used to staying at home " or "She is using that illness for an excuse why she can"t work, or "All she does is sit at home, all day and her house still is not clean" I even had my own son say, That he knew someone that had an autoimmune disorder and they still worked, but the person he was talking about was 27, I think the last 3 to 4 years have been my worst, with SS I think i have done extremley well to work all these years I am now 53, how have you all responded to those statements, or hinting at them, Do your good meaning friends or family have said things or hinted at things to you??, If i had my leg in plaster everyday of the year then they would see, but because I look fine, I must be???
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kristyk christine_73623
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jordan58854 christine_73623
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christine_73623 jordan58854
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kristyk christine_73623
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I'm sorry you got this lousy disease too..God bless you
Kristy k
I'm going to look for that story. You can check it out online too. Some of the really good columns I leave out for my family to read. There have been a few that helped them understand what we struggle with everyday.
jordan58854 christine_73623
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debraUK jordan58854
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What a great question and I'd guess many of us find other's incorrect perception hugely frustrating. I waver from wanting to keep how I'm feeling to myself so not to bore or burden others and when feeling particularly bad to letting it all come out tears and all. People don't know if you don't tell them I suppose but when family friends etc make ignorant comments I make the point of asking them on what information their view is based and that if they don't know the whole picture they shouldn't judge. Regarding the question about work I explain it was tried for 10 years to adapt role and environment to help me keep working even part time but eventually my health meant my employer had to let me go. And this continues, if anything my symptoms have worsened - although you may not notice as pain and other symptoms are invisible.
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jordan58854 debraUK
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debraUK christine_73623
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What a great question and I'd guess many of us find other's incorrect perception hugely frustrating. I waver from wanting to keep how I'm feeling to myself so not to bore or burden others and when feeling particularly bad to letting it all come out tears and all. People don't know if you don't tell them I suppose but when family friends etc make ignorant comments I make the point of asking them on what information their view is based and that if they don't know the whole picture they shouldn't judge. Regarding the question about work I explain it was tried for 10 years to adapt role and environment to help me keep working even part time but eventually my health meant my employer had to let me go. And this continues, if anything my symptoms have worsened - although you may not notice as pain and other symptoms are invisible.
jennixxie christine_73623
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Lately like 2 weeks ago I started feeling tired like back in the beginning and I've notice the change in me cause now when I get to school I just want to sleep and my body aches.
I also have stop telling my family, boyfriend and friends of how I feel because I honeslty feel like they get annoyed and I can see the way they their faces change when I say anything. I'm so sick and tired of all this!!!!!
By the way my doctor told me that if this gets worse off have to start a new treatment which i forgot the name but it's mostly used for cancer patients which I read about and I really don't want to start this treatment EVER especially cause something that can happen where I get other diseases I don't want to deal with it anymore and I know it's not as bad as how some of you had it for so long but I can't no more
jordan58854 christine_73623
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