Feeling Guilty
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I love my job! I aint great at it, but I enjoy getting up and going to work.................................. well I did!!!!!!!!!!
This time last year I got up at 5.19 am, (5.15 was just too early) got ready and got the bus by 6:10. got off at 6:49, had a smoke, got a coffee and then worked my butt off til 3.
Now, I get up at 10am (if I'm lucky) put the kettle on and sit on the sofa to wake up................ If I'm lucky, I remember the kettle is on.................. My Job is kinda fantastic, because I DO have the resources to work fom home, BUT I am so frigging tired from trying to do the simple tasks like getting out of bed, washing, brushing my teeth etc, I just do not have the balls to tell my boss 'thanks for your support but I still may (great posibility) mess up my job!!!!!!
I DO NOT want to lose my job,but how do you tell (the best) boss on the earth that you can't cope? He has been so supprotive (despite my many diagnosis b4 fibro) that the best he is offering is not good enough.............. I HATE FIBRO!!!!
Sorry rant again, but I am considering giving up my job cos I don't wanna let anyone down
Thanks for listening xx
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Boqer erykah71
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All I can say is that fibro really sux! It just takes the stuffing out of you, and you need time to rest as I'm sure you have things to do other than work. Try not to look on it as letting people down, but rather as keeping them in the loop, and you can only do as much as you can, any more and you will suffer, as will those you love around you, so really its by facing the situation head on that you aren't letting people down.
Just try not to let your mind spin on it and relax
Always be kind to yourself
Gentle hugs
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erykah71 Boqer
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When I was first signed off was with depression!, then I had several IBS days (was told by previous doc I had Chrons disease? ) BUT other docs called it IBS. Then I had the depression, along with abnormal smear test, I just feel like I'm excuse making to stay off work *I'm not) AAAAArrrrrrggggggghhhh What to do xx......
Boqer erykah71
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klaregee erykah71
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erykah71 klaregee
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I have said before, it is amazing how many other people with this illness experience the exact same symptoms/feelings and situations. I have read a few posts and thought I don't remember writing that and obviously I haven't because someone else has lol.
I have a cousin with Lupus and Chrons, and she said my IBS symptoms were exactly like hers.
My nan had MS, and was wheelchair bound for over 50 years and although I didn't initally think about this when I first started getting ill, it is still a worry, as I just don't feel any better day to day.
I do however, have an amazing supportive family. They have seen how this illness has taken a hold of me, and help me without question or moaning. Even my 15 year old son lol.
I need help with practically everything these days in one way or another but I am very lucky. They do however take the micky about how I'm turning into my mother lol, but it keeps me smiling.
I am thankful for the support I have found on this site, because I would have cracked up by now without you all.
Gentle hugs xx
klaregee erykah71
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Had a note from doc on my recent prescription asking me to call him, worried now that its something serious even tho I know he would have called me if this was the case. I panic about everything these days, unrecognisable from the person I was but I'm still alive so u nd to get on with it as best u can.
I've put in 3 stone in 6 months as I've hardly moved and the internet is a great way of stocking the cupboards with minimum effort I used to be very active and now I can't seem to do the simplest thing, solo frustrating!!
Love a good moan lol xx
debbie_1966 erykah71
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Gentle hugs Debbie x
kaz_40 erykah71
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Boqer kaz_40
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Gentle hugs
Have a good day
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Boqer kaz_40
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kaz_40 Boqer
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deb97936 erykah71
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I have been in the very same position as you. I am also biting the same frustration as I am unemployable due to being 'unreliable'.. because of this condition. Yes it can frustrate the crap out of me, but more so because people can make you turn upon yourself to those emotive thoughts of, 'feel quilty' for not working and contributing to society.
Well, I have had to become stronger, thicker skinned at brushing off those ignorant comments and looks that you know what they are thinking. Because I am protecting my mental over body, and I don't want the stressfull flares that come with stirred emotions stressing me.
Your life is yours, and no-one has the ignorant right to judge you, you know your limitations and they have to respect you for those limitations, and that is it, period.
You have to 'GET REAL' with yourself. Appreciate yourself first. Maybe your boss will allow you to just work the hours as and when you can, and then to be able to step back on those days or periods when you need to step back.. Who know's he maybe agree to your suggestion of it. Job sharing is a good thing and works for some.
Take care and go easy on yourself.. try not to get uptight and just make the adjustments that you know deep down that you have to do.. with the knowledge in the back of your mind that you can probably be still suitable for work but with limitations.
HUGS
klaregee deb97936
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Just wanted to thank u for ur comment. I'm currently on long term sick and feel like they think I'm putting this illness on!! Actually been wishing I have something else and bugging Dr for blood tests just so I have 'proof' I am actually ill but ur right, I know I am ill and not faking it, need to accept things as they are and stop feeling like a failure!!
Claire xx
klaregee erykah71
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I started a new job in July last year, loved it till I had a fall in September which caused a flare up like u wouldn't believe (or unfortunately probably would!)
Struggled in till Jan, been signed off since then and the mornings r just the worst!! I have been considering changing jobs to nightshift or going P/T as I am on minimal sick pay and get no help paying my mortgage, bills etc. as I get no help. On my 2nd appeal for even the basic benefit amount which would at least soften the blow of dropping £800 a month if I go P/T. I am a single parent to a 14yr old and the guilt eats me up some days. Unable to go out, summer holidays and can't even imagine sitting in a plane to go anywhere even if I could afford to!
I would suggest u talk to ur boss about flexible hours if u can, maybe lessen ur duties a little or replace them with tasks u are more comfortable with? Bit idealistic I know, bosses can only be so sympathetic when the have their own targets etc. to meet.
I'm glad u have the support of ur boss but can understand u don't want to keep going on and on, I feel sometimes the only thing I seem to talk about with family and friends is how sore I am, his little I can do, how confused I am!! Feel like I drag them down too
I'm quite new to this forum but found it a great help just knowing others r in the same situation.
Hugs, Claire xx
erykah71
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It is horrible that this illness is charging up so many different emotions - depression, anger, anxiety, guilt, woe etc etc.
I know you can all sympathise because I'm sure you've all felt these emotions (and more). Unfortuately, I have a difficult time accepting I can't do what I used to be able to do, and I can't seem to find any perspective.
Yesterday, I felt so rough and worn out physically and emotionly I virtually did nothing all day. Today I still feel worn out but also feel really sick, it seems to be something else everyday and I feel like I'm going out of my mind. The thought of not having control over my body is really scary.
Anyway, thanks again guys - I'm not usually so whingy but thanks to the fibro I am nearly a professional now
Gentle hugs all round and have a good day my lovely fibro friends
E xx
kaz_40 erykah71
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deb97936 erykah71
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I feel like yourself, plain work out. Groggy, foggy, heavy and at times nausiated.
I actually think a few of us here have earned our Fibro Professional Badges and the zero to 100% plus moany bags and whingers Badges to... of all colours and shapes. lol..
I have sat in the cold all day, with some getting off my butt to do the odd minor think like heat my pre cooked porridge, heat my pre cooked soup today and my hot cuppers and take my meds... toilet the dogs and yup, that's been my lot today... hohummmm
Hoping to like yourself and others, the day tomorrow looks or actually feels better alround... fingers x'd..