I contracted HSV 1 and HSV 2 but my partner didn't
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I tested positive for HSV 1 and HSV 2 a few days ago. My partners says his results were negative I don't know how this could be. I've only been with him for years. I had blood IgG testing and he had a mouth swab. Neither of us have symptoms. The reason I was tested was because he was unfaithful and contracted Trich. My doctors are adamant that he should have had the same testing I did. Please help me to understand.
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I have had blood work (full spectrums run after each Bf, ha only 3 BFs by my mid-30s, I am a workaholic and somewhat of a prude, so never anytime), and each one was run 3-6 months after we parted ways as a part of my annual and had blood drawn for all (HIV, HSV1 and 2, HepC, etc). Always came back negative. The last guy I had been any type of intimate (hell even kissing) was almost 5 years before this "creepy" guy.
I suppose anything is possible, but this almost assuredly points to him. We did have genital to gential contact (rubbing etc) and I had negative tests up to that date, and the last guy I had any type of physical contact with was almost 5 years before him (with no signs or symptoms at all in that five years), and the first definite OB 6 weeks in, but a possible OB that I thought was a pimple about two weeks in (really cannot remember that one, but it is this vague niggling in the back of my mind).
The doctor explained that my index value of over 5 is indicative of a high antibody response, normally that comes after 3-6 months but within the first few years before it begins to drop a bit as the body aclimates. She is fairly sure that it would have been from this person as well, but she has ordered all of my last panels to check my bloodwork to be sure.
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I have had wonderful and loving long-term relationships with ex-boyfriends, but I focused a lot of the last 7+years on my career at the expense of dating, and now as a mid-30's woman feeling career satistified and ready for that relationship and now have this barrier (as an ethical and moral person, this will have to come up when I start to date if the relationship is to progress). I also recently moved from a super large city of several million to a tiny little town of less than 30,000 where everyone talks and knows everyone's business, so this scares me even more. At least in a big city, if a relationship is progressing, when the HSV2 comes out in the conversation and the person decides they don't want to risk it, the chances of you a) runnng into them again and/or b) them telling everyone in the town 'don't date that girl she has herpes' are much more slim. In a small town I fear that my dating pool is now over (and as if in my mid-30s my dating pool wasn't already limited since so many people are already married).
I also hate that this makes me feel like I have been a sexually promiscuous person, and I have friends who have slept with 20-100 people each and have never gotten a lifelong communicable disease. I remember conversations out with friends where they would make comments on the curable STDs that they did get with comments like "at least it isn't herpes", or "I'd kill myself if it was herpes". I feel it is so unfair that me, the person that a) was always in long-term monogamous relationships-less partners than on one hand, and b) that I got it from a guy that I didn't even have sex with is the most unfair thing to have ever been dealt. So, yes, going over to his place that night (even though I stopped him before we went all the way) was one of the worst decisions I have ever made and I will have to live with it the rest of my life and everytime I have an OB I will remember the creepy guy who gave it to me. I would be okay if it had been an ex, because each of them I made a concious decision to be with and that I could live with. This just sucks knowing it was a guy that made my skin crawl and I didn't even sleep with him.