Anxiety.. Anyone else had similar symptoms??

Sorry, I missed your earlier post. It does seem you're under a great amount of loss and stress, and that is naturally very difficult. You don't give your age here, or if perhaps you may be on medications for seemingly unrelated physical conditions. Some drugs have side effects, both usual and sometimes unexpected ones. They can effect the way the brain interprets sounds over time. For instance, the hum of a fan or washing machine in the background, with repetitive noise patterns. Have you ever fallen asleep listening to a "sound machine" (white noise, waterfall or raindrop sounds, wind in the trees?) If so, you may have awakened, while half asleep, and noticed the sound seemed different or unfamiliar at first. Hope this helps, and that more people will write in.

Hi abi, that sounds completely normal after what you have gone through. Sorry you're having a hard time and try to look after yourself.

people under stress and prone to anxiety do hear and see things that aren't there.  you can convince your brain that it's someone talking/mumbling.  these noises and sighting are easily explained by fans, settling and creaking in the house, tinnitus, tricks of the eyes...  the brain is a very powerful thing.  if you can convince yourself it's something, you can easily convince yourself that it's nothing because most of the time it's not.   

Hiya

Sorry to hear of your loses. Been there, done all that, would not wish that feeling of loss on anyone.

I suspect you are a lot younger than me - I'm 54+. Had lost both parents & both in-laws by age of 44. We both felt like orphaned kids - a bit lost.

But I suspect a lot of my early Peri symptoms began and i associated them as purely grieving/bereavement.

Have to say, unlike you, I have always been an OTT hothead - come from a family of them in fact! So anxiety and stress was nothing new to me.

I did go to the Doc just after my father-in-law passed, and went into one, ranting about heavy periods, needing HRT - then burst into tears, blubbing on about my loss. What happened next changed my whole coping mechanism. The Doc quietly said what I was actually experiencing was bereavement, and it was a necessary part acknowledging the loss of a loved one.

She offered to refer me to a bereavement counseller but dya know what, I felt instantly relieved just to have off-loaded to her, a stranger to a degree, as it was just me, my husband and our poor teenage son dealing with this sh*t by ourselves.

She didn't offer any meds which I was grateful for, and I declined the counselling, but just talking to someone about my loss who wasn't related to us was great.

Have you the opportunity to speak to someone outside the family? Believe me, talking and blubbing are great therapy and put things into perspective somewhat.

I'm anti-Meds generally, so would not have been something for me personally. My husband took his loss terribly, in fact 10yrs on he misses his dad so much still. He said the other day that he thinks he's sorta out of grieving....sorta. I beg to differ: he will NEVER get over his loss (father's only child), but I understand that.

We talk, talk, talk about our parents daily - they were great parents.

Maybe go see your GP, tell them of your losses and how you are feeling/ your experiences. Its likely they will offer you meds: who knows, they may be exactly what you need......for now.

I feel very anxious at the mo (sold Business/family home/Business premises so MASSIVE life-changing episode for us in our 50s!!!), so even though I've bled for most of July, I have bigger fish to fry - my Peri has taken a backseat. When we find a new home (relocating 140m away from our son/few family), we'll both settle down......and I'll address this bloody Red Devil once and for all and may actually decide to go see a new GP to talk about my ever-so-long Perimenopause (still bleeding regularly by and large).

Stay on this site. You'll get fantastic advice (not necessarily from me!) but more importantly you'll feel supported. Its great for that.

Chin up Kiddo, how you're feeling will pass. Just a shame we lose people we love at a really emotional time for us to try to cope with.

S xx

PS - I'd say our saving grace through everything we've had to cope with has definitely been our sense of humour. So try to keep laughing and loving :-)

I myself do have anxieties. Its getting better but the worries have to stop because thats what makes a person more anxious. Yes I have a lot of worries myself but if you constantly worry about health issues you will have a lot of anxieties. 

Can't you do something to get your mind off yourself. Volunteer your time help someone in need 

Read a book, do some writing, go for a walk talk to someone. Do not stay in the house all day get out and move around 

Go out and meet a friend because i can not be in the house all day long or my anxieties will be bad and i will be worring about this or that and yes i do have a tendency of doing that and its not fun 

You are not going crazy you are probably depressed since you lost your mom and your anxieties are getting the best of you 

Like i say do something to keep busy