Finally cured Recurring BV. It was my boyfriend all along.

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I’m about to get very very personal in hopes that this could help someone, as I spent countless hours trying to find a cure online for this nightmare. I have been BV free for about 6 months(having sex twice a day or more and still nothing) and I’m optimistic the nightmare will be over for good.

The first time I got BV I have no idea how or exactly why. I was being treated for a kidney infection and ended up with BV which I had never heard of. That was over 2 years ago. I took the antibiotics like they told me and never had a recurring problem despite stressing after reading this was incurable online (but I was not sexually active with my boyfriend for a long time afterwards). 

Flash forward to my new  relationship. I was very depressed and in a really bad place with everything. I had just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years and I made the mistake of jumping into a new relationship with someone I knew wasn’t completely faithful to me. However, he was the only person I was with. I got BV back immediately. I took about 3-4 rounds of antibiotics in a year. Shoved every supposed cure out there up my vagina and then some. I’m talking boric acid, salt baths, ACV, lemon water, changed my diet and cut out sugar. Nothing worked. Everytime we had sex. BV. 

Last November I ended up going to the doctor again but this time I also had chlamydia that I got when my boyfriend cheated on me. I was devastated but for some reason I cured the chlamydia and took him back. However we ended up giving it back to each other due to us being stupid and bad timing. And of course I got the BV again. 

So the second time(his 3rd time) we went in to get cured for this they gave us both some heavy duty antibiotics. Upon reading about it(I forgot the name) I discovered they will halt the growth of any bacteria in your body. 

I strongly believe he was the one reintroducing the BV bacteria to me every time and the antibiotics finally removed them from his body. Long story short we forgave each other and we are now exclusive and have not had any problems. Some doctors will say that they cannot give it back to you but I don’t believe it. It all adds up. I committed to 3 months of no sex (he just had to deal with it )and took 2 50billion vaginal probiotics everyday so that I could make sure I had a healthy flora before having sex again.  My plan actually worked. You HAVE to give yourself time to recover. Without a healthy flora you cannot fight off BV bacteria. Probiotics are a must.

Now I’m not a doctor but honestly doctors do not have a clue ! Not even specialists. I honestly believe I’ve researched BV more extensively than any doctor I’ve been to at this point. It is just like an STD you will keep passing it to each other I don’t care what the doctors say. So it goes without saying that with this being the most popular vaginal infection if you’re going with many guys or your boyfriend is going with many girls you will get it and keep getting it. 

He HAS to get cured. And In case you’re wondering this is his last straw but our relationship is a complicated one. I’m also not saying your man is cheating, he could have just gotten the bacteria from you. 

I hope this helps someone with this nightmare. 

Antibiotics for both of you. Lots of probiotics for you. No sex for a few months until you’re balanced. Worked for me. 

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    I completely agree with the "man" needing to be treated, too! Had it on and off for 3yrs, right after getting my tubes tied and getting a new bf. 3-4 times a year. I ended things with him, 6 months later I get a new bf, and I haven't had an issue!

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    You are absolutely right! Most doctors will be honest and tell you that it’s a Std and treat your partner. Bv is more common with lesbians. Hopefully your getting more than metronidazole too!
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      I know this post is 2 years old. But what else besides metronidazole ? I hope you can answer.

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      Hey, you can get boric acid. Purchase Boric life from off amazon. insert into your vagina twice a day for 14 days.

      Also get the applicators so you can insert the pill deep into vagina. this is the cure sis good luck

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    I have had sex with the same guy off on for 11 years, (that's been a waste of time). During which Ive suffered from BV and chlamydia. I too have had to try various treatments and I have found MicremeH helps sooth the itchiness, swelling. At first I assumed it was me because the doctor & even google led me to believe so. BUT when we are not seeing each other for long periods I do not suffer from it!

    When we start seeing each other again I get it (again). Today Ive confronted him about it (again) referring to it as a "STD". Today he admitted cheating on me 3 weeks ago. Today I broke up with him (again).

    So basically Ive joined this page today just to share with you and other women suffering from this disease regularly, that it may well be your man is cheating and may have forgotten to wash his ding a ling and you have received bacteria from another vagina that your body is instinctively rejecting...

    He can lie with his mouth but cant hide the evidence. I believe the doctors are wrong. BV is a sexually transmitted disease and I am proof that men can spread it!

    Thanks for sharing JC

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    Hi there. I certainly don't want to cause any friction here but i'm sorry i have to disagree with what you have posted here. BV is a bacteria that lives naturally in the vagina. The infection is simply caused when the PH of the vagina is upset. A woman's vagina is slightly acidic whilst a man's semen is more alkaline & sometimes after sex his semen can cause a change in the PH of the vagina. When i was with my ex who i was with for 15 years i did get BV on 3 occasions but it wasn't because he had it. Men don't carry the BV bacteria. If my ex partner had it i would be getting it all the time. It's just another one of those things we as women have to put up with from time to time. However, i do agree that probiotics do play an important role in keeping this pesky problem at bay. Men don't carry the bacteria as it needs a warm environment to survive.

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      please dont steer women wrong just because YOU have only had it 3 times with your man theres plenty of women who wish they only had it 3 times you just so happen to be that few of the bunch that caught the issue from a different soap a different detergent or anything else that sounds oh so simple there are plenty of women who are not just catching this and have to put up with it from time to time there are women who have this EVERYDAY of there lives and it never happened until that one partner came into their lives im one of them and you sound just like a doctor knockin down the next women everbodies bodies are different and just because your man is not a carrier doesnt mean men cant carry plenty of women are reading tons of studies that show men CAN carry this bacteria on them hence why when we as women get treated we get it right back cuz he never got treated im not trying to be rude im just saying you cant tell women they arent getting this from there man when you have only caught it 3 times hut these women get it everytime they treat it and have sex again with that same partner

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      Ok, first things first you clearly didn't read my post properly. He's no longer 'my man' as you put it, he's my ex. Second of all i am not a doctor & nor do i pretend to be but facts are facts & you just seem to find that hard to accept. Men don't give women BV because they don't have the right environment to carry the bacteria. Yes, you might have had success but you tell me not to come on here & give the wrong information to women but i think you need to have a look in the mirror. Men don't carry BV. End of story!!!!

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      No. It's NOT the end of story. There is not enough research on BV for this to be a final conclusion. I had a doctor who treated this as an actual STD by prescribing both my ex and I antibiotics. This kept BV away.

      Until one day, I got it again. I confronted my ex and low and behold, he cheated on me with a girl that apparently he was seeing before. We broke up and of course I got treated. Now a year or so later, I've been dating a new guy for about 6 months now and guess what, I have never gotten BV since we have been together.

      I didn't change my diet, I'm not taking probiotics regularly and we have sex very frequently. I don't care WHAT your studies say. Men are carriers. Period.

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      Well snickered i guess you got lucky didn't you. I'll say it again, men do NOT carry BV. Women naturally carry this bacteria in their vaginas & sometimes the bacteria begins to overgrow. Just because you have a new boyfriend doesn't make you safe. Sometimes you can go for long periods without getting it but please feel free to come back & tell me i was right when you get it again. Oh & by the way, where in my post did i mention STUDIES.

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      Then perhaps you should continue doing yoyr research because the very few peer reviewed studies that have been done have shown zero effect by treating the male.

      And if its only that "one" partner youve ever gotten it with then its because your vagina doesnt like his semen

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      I agree. I never had bv until my husband was sleeping around on me. I've been suffering now for 6 years now and I live in a small town and get made fun of and judged everyday. My kids hear the things people say about me its so sad. I wish I could find a cure so my babies dont have to suffer from a problem I'm dealing with. It hurts me everyday and I have tried so many things and nothin has worked. Ive been to several doctors and the medicine they prescribe doesn't work! Honestly I'm tired of suffering and I don't know what else to do.

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      Hello....Ms. Michelle7, with all due respect, I think maybe you are kinda wording what your saying wrong, I understand some what of what your saying...however, this bacteria does not infact BEGIN with a man...it absolutely gets formed an created in the vagina simple when we are thrown off balance for numerous of reasons, acidity from semen, different soaps, stress, diet, you name it!....once we are thrown off balance, this is where BV comes alive, an when you have sex with your partner...then he ABSOLUTELY WILL CARRY THIS INFECTION, until he is also treated...he doesn't carry it originally from the start, but when he sleeps with a female that does carry it...you better believe the man 10000% carries an will absolutely transfer it to you over an over if he's not treated....I only have been going thru this for 25 years...so I know a little knowledge...the doctors & scientists can say what they want, but its nothing like HANDS ON an someone actually living it, experiencing it first hand...I hope this helps

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      hey im like this are you anemic because its harder to clear if you are and dalacin 2% cream helped me. dont give up 😃

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      hi, you have clearly not heard of Ureaplasma. It's a common bacteria that IS sexually transmitted. Such a common cause for BV problems that isn't even tested for in most countries.

      ladies, if your tests are coming back negative, make sure you test for Ureaplasma!

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      Thank you!!!!! now don't get me wrong some women do get BV from a man cheating but many fail to realize sperm is alkaline and the vagina is a little acidic and sperm will throw the PH off causing the BV. I'm glad someone knows!!

      Also, ladies ask for clindamycin it works winder for BV and you can get it off the online doctors and have it the same day. I use wisp. You're welcome 😃

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      I think you need to go back & reread my post. If you were reading it correctly i DID say that it DOES NOT begin with the man. It is a bacteria that lives naturally in the vagina & sometimes semen can upset the natural balance. You can come back at me all

      you want but a man does NOT carry the bacteria because just like thrush BV needs a warm environment to thrive. It is a bacteria & bacteria cannot survive outside the body which is obviously the male penis.

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      Nice to see somebody agrees with me. OMG its like banging your head against a brick wall. Cheers.

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      To contribute to this conversation as fruitfully as possible and without contentious, after a conversation with my doctor, there is more research that may be identifying the role of male genitalia on BV and recurring BV. The NIH article I found is here: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7661182/

      You're not wrong, but we may be finding out more about how it does linger on male genitalia. You are correct that it is likely not procured from male genitalia, but it is possible that it is spread through male genitalia. Unfortunately, due to a lot of different factors in society (some intentional and some as a result of circumstance), we are lacking a lot of information on conditions that afflict women and female genitalia. BV may be able to survive on the male penis, which is why it is important to wear a condom with new or untrustworthy partners.

      Just sharing for knowledge sake only. Personally connected with this as I've been dealing with recurring BV from an ex and I'd never had it before. The worst part is not knowing where it came from and how (or if) I will be able to go back to my "normal". Knowing as much as I can and trusting my doctors has helped.

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