Finally cured Recurring BV. It was my boyfriend all along.
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I’m about to get very very personal in hopes that this could help someone, as I spent countless hours trying to find a cure online for this nightmare. I have been BV free for about 6 months(having sex twice a day or more and still nothing) and I’m optimistic the nightmare will be over for good.
The first time I got BV I have no idea how or exactly why. I was being treated for a kidney infection and ended up with BV which I had never heard of. That was over 2 years ago. I took the antibiotics like they told me and never had a recurring problem despite stressing after reading this was incurable online (but I was not sexually active with my boyfriend for a long time afterwards).
Flash forward to my new relationship. I was very depressed and in a really bad place with everything. I had just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years and I made the mistake of jumping into a new relationship with someone I knew wasn’t completely faithful to me. However, he was the only person I was with. I got BV back immediately. I took about 3-4 rounds of antibiotics in a year. Shoved every supposed cure out there up my vagina and then some. I’m talking boric acid, salt baths, ACV, lemon water, changed my diet and cut out sugar. Nothing worked. Everytime we had sex. BV.
Last November I ended up going to the doctor again but this time I also had chlamydia that I got when my boyfriend cheated on me. I was devastated but for some reason I cured the chlamydia and took him back. However we ended up giving it back to each other due to us being stupid and bad timing. And of course I got the BV again.
So the second time(his 3rd time) we went in to get cured for this they gave us both some heavy duty antibiotics. Upon reading about it(I forgot the name) I discovered they will halt the growth of any bacteria in your body.
I strongly believe he was the one reintroducing the BV bacteria to me every time and the antibiotics finally removed them from his body. Long story short we forgave each other and we are now exclusive and have not had any problems. Some doctors will say that they cannot give it back to you but I don’t believe it. It all adds up. I committed to 3 months of no sex (he just had to deal with it )and took 2 50billion vaginal probiotics everyday so that I could make sure I had a healthy flora before having sex again. My plan actually worked. You HAVE to give yourself time to recover. Without a healthy flora you cannot fight off BV bacteria. Probiotics are a must.
Now I’m not a doctor but honestly doctors do not have a clue ! Not even specialists. I honestly believe I’ve researched BV more extensively than any doctor I’ve been to at this point. It is just like an STD you will keep passing it to each other I don’t care what the doctors say. So it goes without saying that with this being the most popular vaginal infection if you’re going with many guys or your boyfriend is going with many girls you will get it and keep getting it.
He HAS to get cured. And In case you’re wondering this is his last straw but our relationship is a complicated one. I’m also not saying your man is cheating, he could have just gotten the bacteria from you.
I hope this helps someone with this nightmare.
Antibiotics for both of you. Lots of probiotics for you. No sex for a few months until you’re balanced. Worked for me.
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29413 Guest
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Men can't get BV because the penis doesn't have the same delicate balance of bacteria. In addition, bacterial vaginosis doesn't spread like a sexually transmitted infections it is formed on the womans vagina from the pH of the vagina fluctuating whether it's from too much intercourse or multiple partners or douching too much or washing with the wrong type of soap or not washing correctly or not washing good so don't ever think it's men giving it to you that's denial on your part you aren't doing something correctly the woman always has it first not the man it is never contracted from a man because he has it but a man can spread it and if a man does not wash his penis correctly it can be on the head and shaft of his penis and if he has multiple partners and you don't know then he could be getting it from somebody else spreading it on to him and they're spreading it on to you but it's not a contraction through liquids like an STD it's only on the surface of his penis if he gets it and then it could be spread to you and others but only after getting it from a woman the man never has it first and never gives it to the woman if a man has anything close to that it's going to be urethritis and he will notice if he has it
michelle70460 29413
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Thank you. 100% agreed.
Guest 29413
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bv can be carried by a male partner. penile microbiome serves a Reservoir for the bacteria to reinfect women. The issue is the lack of research on the topic. any Gyno and urologist will gladly tell you the same
NikkiORD Guest
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I totally agree with everything you stated! Doctors don't know anything! We know our own bodies and it is sexually transmitted!!!
I do have a question.......What antibiotic did your bf take and how long?
Thanks alot:)
n50539 NikkiORD
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please can you advise on the antibiotic taken i would be interested in finding out as i just keep getting told to take the cream thankyou
michelle09020 Guest
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i too never had bv before my current partner. im so unsure on whether men carry the bacteria at least on the skin. we were separated for two months and it seemed to become more manageable but never fully went away even throughout that time. i can say though the bacteria seemed less. doctors havent done enough research yet to conclude 100 percent if men cant carry it on thier skin so i cant say yes or no. i just want this nightmare over being sent to a gyno specialist hopefully some answers but honestly dont have high hopes.
Capricorns1st michelle09020
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Keep the faith. Take your antibiotics and leave him at the clinic.
Capricorns1st Guest
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This lady is telling the absolute truth!!!!! I struggled with BV for many years - nearly a decade. My case was when I entered into a relationship with this guy Chris. My vagina is naturaly odorless - zero issues. I entered into a relationship with him and that’s when my BV troubles began. I’d get the antibiotics, get back clean, and then we’d have sex and it would come back every single time. This happened with two other guys I was in a committed relationship with and I realized that I would only be BV free when I was celibate. Yea they talk about not using certain soaps, washes and fragrances but people are not talking about how the bacteria that causes BV is living on a man’s penis. LADIES PLEASE! If you’re not going to cut that man off, at least get him tested. Go to the the doctor, get your antibiotics, THEN take your probiotics, change your soaps to fragrance free and use 100% cotton panties. Trust me it’s the man.
dion47633 Guest
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hey im going through the same thing and its horrible. i had bv untreated for a year and in this time had a new sexual partner and we were both loyal and both got checked for stds together and free from this however doctors wernt listening to me when i said i had weird smelly discharge and they said oh just thrush. like really?!
because this was untreated i developed an abscess on my right ovary and developed pid and eneded up in hospital with sepsis from this....all from BV LIKE HOW!
doctors didnt help me and every time i have unprotected sex with my boyfriend i get bv because he has never been treated and youre right they carry this bacterica obviosuly cant have bv but carry this on them. i have had antibiotics and this cleared me and sex with boyfriend again and what happens bv again. Im so convinced he needs antibiotics but doctors are s**t on nhs and wont do anything for me or him so i have to buy antibiotics online for me however not sure what antibiotics for my boyfriend. what antibiotics did you and him get so you were both treated?
and ladies you dont get bv from a man just cheating it can be for a number of things for example my boyfriend at the start of our relationship didnt wash and was dirty so now bevause of what keeps happening hes more careful but PLEASE HELP WHAT ANTIBIOTICS DO ME AND MY BOYFRIEND TAKE PLEASE HELP A WOMAN OUT PLEASE X
Kelly123987 Guest
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I'm so glad I've found this, but i wonder if anyone can help.
I have been on and off with my ex partner for 6 years, if we have a row that was his excuse to leave, join tinder and sleep with someone else because "we wasn't together" but he always came back and me being a fool took him back every time. But when i slept with, the following day i got BV, everytime this happened i also got myself tested for any STI's (always clear)! we split up for nearly a year and i met someone else, just a casual thing and had sex often and nothing, no BV at all. After that year i got back with my ex and the first time i slept with him again i got BV. That cycle happened again. He left and this time he got into an actual relationship. i had sex twice with the same same guy as i was casually seeing before and i was fine. Now the ex is back on the scene, clearly just for sex but the minute i slept with him i got bv AGAIN. How is this only happening with that 1 person? we are both very clean people and every time i get tested im still clear from STI's. I cant figure out what is happening and why its only with him. The answer would be to steer clear from him i know, but its so hard when you cant think of anyone but him. Its a very difficult situation, especially when i have 3 children with him. please help!
kelli47324 Guest
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Your discussion hit home with me regarding "He has to get cured". I wish you could remember the name of the heavy antibiotics that you both took. Any way you could find that out. I'm also in agreement ...Doctors have no clue. (Sometimes).
No biggie if you're not able to find the name. Thank you!
Dutchie92 Guest
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guys you all probably have genital herpes!!
try VALTREX (valaciclovir)
herpes triggers the BV every month around the same time.
herpes is really hard to find, it can be a very small wound, that dries up. and you never notice you have it
marykate36274 Guest
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I had a similar experience. i was with my ex for over 5 years, no issues until he cheated on me, i got BV, got treated, i was still with my ex and the BV kept re-occurring. then i made him use a condom always because i was sick of dealing with getting BV constantly after sex. After starting to use condoms I didn't get the BV. He finally had enough of the condoms and got treated himself with antibiotics, we never had a problem again. Then we eventually broke up; i got fully tested for STDs , was all clear. I started dating my current boyfriend of 2 years now; after a few months i got BV again, was treated....then i got it again. i explained to my boyfriend what i went through in my previous relationship and asked if he'd be willing to take antibiotics. He did, and i haven't had BV again. I also now take a woman's probiotic "pro-flora" daily for extra protection.