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dondons
dondons

Why am I never happy?

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  • ajrm2389
    ajrm2389 dondons

    Posted

     I'm not sure what happiness is,all I know is I feel horrible for weeks before I feel "even" ,I don't know if that's happiness.
  • hypercat
    hypercat dondons

    Posted

    Hi Dondon it's because you are aiming much too high at the moment.  Before you can be happy you have to learn how to cope.   To do that you have to want to change and listen and carry out positive things you are told by your counsellors and by us here. 

    The next stage after coping is contentment.  Again you need to learn how to achieve this and be open to help.   Once you have reached contentment you will find some measure of happiness.  But no one is happy all the time you know - often it's little fleeting moments.   Once you have this you can build on it to make your life better and do more of what you want to .  

    An example of this is I get a lot ofd pleasure from one of my hobbies - playing darts,  so I play for a team 2/3 times a week.   I look after my own needs to ensure I get enough of what I want in life as consolotion for the things I don't want to do which we all have to do.     You need to have a balance.   The things you enjoy make life worth living. 

    • hypercat
      hypercat

      Posted

      Haven't finished yet but the screen kept flickering and kicked me out! 

      Remember your counsellor telling you you need to take care of your own needs?   Well s/he is right.   You need to learn how to do that rather than saying 'No one understands me'.   And rather than calling yourself names.  Once you realise they are right then you can take the first steps to starting to be happy.  You won;t otherwise you know.  There is unfortunately no magic wand to wave and you have got to participate in your own treatment no matter how difficult it is.   No one can do it for you,  they can help that's all.   You need to understand that and start taking the help available.   Bev xxx

  • ajrm2389
    ajrm2389 dondons

    Posted

    Thank you but I feel like there's nothing to like . I'm a failure in so many ways I don't know where to start.
    • hypercat
      hypercat ajrm2389

      Posted

      Depression is telling you you are a failure.  Don't listen to those negative thoughts please.   We all fail sometmes you know,  even those without depression fail.  The difference is they don't see it as a big problem and just pick themselves up and carry on..   

      We depressives mull over it constantly and obsess and decide to call ourselves names.  Where you start to get better is to get some help.  I don;t know if you are getting any but if you are persevere with it.   xx

  • ausfem
    ausfem dondons

    Posted

    Chin up mate the question is why are you unhappy what can you change to make things better do you have a support network or do you need one what has made you happy before everyone has had some happy moments reflect of off these hope you find some happiness cause its out there somewhere xo
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