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Pulling yourself up, dusting yourself down and taking charge of your life can be an up hill battle.. Here is my story. I had a wonderful life, no real financial worries, worked hard, loved socialising and had the most wonderful man of 22 year, great mutual friends all on the same page and boom... I got unwell. Chronic conditions that have plagued me for a long time. It didn't take long when I was on my knees before I was unceremoniously dumped whilst on the floor in pain. He couldn't take it so he left and... wait for it, a couple of months later he came back, the usual sorry, miss you, made a mistake and please can I come home. I was desprate and let him come home, after all we all make mistakes, don't we? I just wanted support in getting well again. He came home but really he didn't. He was there in physical form but not mentally. 2 years of misery later he ups sticks again, didn't like being with me and of course in true mid life crisis form was having an affair with the much younger model. As if I didn't have enough to deal with health wise. Within days he'd moved her in to the second home, the pension scheme so to speak and "started his new life" quote. He is very comfortably off and gives me a small income each month, beggars can't be choosers. He's left me in our home we built together, always with the threat he may come after me, hangs over me like a mallet. I call him my husband as we were together in total for 25 years but never married. I have no rights, no means of supporting myself and the mistress is hot on my heels with her hate campaign as she feels threatened by me. The old crock who can't work, who is unwell and looks like hell but she hates me. Can't think why after all she came here to work for him and snared the boss, has my cottage, my man, my life, his money the blessing of his family and I'm left unable to fix my car, no oil in my tank, living on the bread line and struggling to cope. They have been left to get on with it in peace, no trouble from me. I need to sell my lovely home but I can't afford to get the building regs signed off as there is a problem with the build. I've had promis after promis he'd help but nothing comes. it's a strain. I try and hold my head up and be as dignified as I can but it's hard. Started a new relationship,with a nice man but my Heath still plagues me and I didn't want to be a burden so I ended it. Life is lonley. The wonderful mutual friend vanished for the bountiful life the ex had on offer and the curiosity of the new younger foreign girl "who can do the thinks that you can't do" was bluntly expressed to me. I'm determined not to fall foul of this mess but just how do you stay positive and pull yourself up again.
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