12 week hospital check

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Yesterday I went for my 12 week hospital check, what a refreshing change of attitude I had from the Nurse there!

After having quite abrupt conversations with my GP about my recovery-her attitude was “it was a Laproscopic operation, no complications and it was “months” ago-I should be back to normal”!!

This quite upset me as she failed to remember I have other health conditions that impact on my health, well being and recovery!

I have an under active thyroid=so I’m already tired much of the time, I have mild scoliosis =so I have back pain much of the time, I’m going through the Menopause =variety of symptoms!

I’m also the sole carer of two kids, one with severe autism, non verbal who is totally reliant on me-she is going through puberty too so can is often a handful!

The nurse “got it” completely, she dismissed the GP’s comments, that recovery can take ages, that I could be 80% recovered by 8 weeks but the last 20% could take AGES to achieve!

Made me feel so much better than I did after I spoke to the GP!

So, I would advise people to listen to their bodies more than anything else-the operations we’ve had were a big deal and don’t let impatient GPs guilt trip you into thinking you’re lazy or a hypochondriac!

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    Good advice. Just because it's tucked up out of sight I think I'm also guilty of thinking I should be back 2 normal by now. I'm 5 weeks post surgery. All yes u have a lot of work at home plus other medical conditions 2 consider. It's hard 2 find a good GP!

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      My gp is nice enough but she’s a very straight talking kind of doctor, could be a cultural thing as she African, she’s quite black and white about things!

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    Hi Pollyward

    Glad you got some empathy at last!

    I would like all those who minimise the impact of this surgery to line up for it themselves!

    I am 14 weeks post A & R and u sling and only now feel as if everything is not bearing down and feeling unsupported. However still not not standing for very long and only carrying very light items. 

    I feel it is an outrage that women have to resort to forums such as this one to get information that is realistic and supportive when their post op journey is not following the unrealistic expectation.

    I am so very grateful to all those beautiful women who have shared their experiences on this forum and who have so gently and wisely reassured and supported so many.

    Hope you continue to get stronger Pollyward


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      Here here well said Peta. I feel like I/we are totally uninformed. I was sent home for 6 weeks with a pamphlet from the hospital but with no guidance from my specialist. I have to keep emailing his rooms. I'd love 2 know if I can have a bath now ... but I can't be bothered sending yet another email. I'll wait til my post op appointment next week. Like u I thank everyone here for posting their personal stories. I am very grateful 😍

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      Thank you peta46390!

      It’s so true, we shouldn’t have to google for support, almost as if our operations are a dirty secret!

      The lack of knowledge from the GP is pretty shocking to me, I do know they are super busy but empathy and understanding doesn’t cost anything or any time!

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      Kym I was advised that just a warm bath after 6 weeks was ok. So it won’t be fun for being in it for too long! Hehe

      What have others been told??


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      Yeah I like that ...dirty secret. Lol

      It’s surgery that is major and so important for our strength and vitality particularly as we have a life of carrying and lifting everything.

      I have changed the way I do a lot of things now even more so as I have just had third time prolapse surgery.

      Keep up the good work girl


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