14 days post op

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14 days post op my bowel discomfort is no better feels like I always need to go I am taking lactulose stools are soft but after I do go I get throbbing in back passage is this normal 

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    It is normal karen because healing is still taking place and will for a little while yet. The throbbing is very common and if you witnessed how the operation is performed as I have you would understand why.
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    Hi karen, I too have this . I am so exhausted after I have been for a BM. There is no real pain just discomfort and I throbbing like you mentioned and a really heavy feeling in my rectum perinieum area. It feels like its all about to fall out, though I tgell myself thats silly I too worry that it is failing. I think I also have what fels like piles - truly hope its not some prolapse again and this also throbs and is f=difficult to clean. Oh the joys of this operation. I had been walking around the house a little but ventured out for a 15 minute trip with real walking to shopping mall yesterday. Only there an our but walked alot and whole area down there throbbed even more. So taking it easy to day. Maybe Matron could answer this one. Why do they wait so long to get us checked out. * weeks seems a long time. It would be wonderful to have a nurse or doc check you after a couple of weeks and then a month say just so we could be reassured everything is okay down there. Anyway Karen hoping to take it easy to day , hope you are too. I find the water on the pad and freeze it like a ice pack works for a while to stop the throbbing. Of course the pain killers help but they make me feel groggy so only take strong ones when needed. Sue we will feel better soon. Few lladies have mentioned groggy feeling gos after about 3 weeks. Must kkep Positive . hope you will too. Chat soon. big hug 
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      Hi Tilley I am so glad that it is not just me feeling this way not that I want anybody else to be suffering its just reassuring to know this is normal after this op yes I too worry that prolapse has not gone or is returning. It would be good to have a check up after a couple of weeks to put our minds at rest as reading other posts this is when we all seem to get anxious. I have not ventured put since I had my little trip to the supermarket didn't want to chance it again just yet but I am getting a little stir crazy i have had quite a few visitors to keep me company though, and my hubby is getting the hang of the oven quite nicely. Take it easy today and put your feet up Tilley . we are moving on to week 3 now and looking forward to improving take care xxx
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      I forget to add that in hospital they gave me a glycerine suppository to get things moving and I have used once since dont know if matron advises to use them we will await her reply TilleyTilley
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      Hi ladies, sorry to bump in.I have my anterior repair April 1a8th.this forum is fabulous.. Makes me feel I'm not alone. I feelings rather anxious now.has to be done though so I'm looking to

      Feeling normal again down therre.😘😘

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      Hi I had A&P repair on 17th feb I have found this site a fabulous support as I am sure you will. Matron is an angel she is off the site as of today but returning 18th march but all the other ladies are a great support also. you will always get answers and great advice myself and Tilley had our surgery very close together even though we are both at different sides of the world it is great to talk to others going through the same emotions and symptoms both before and after surgery x
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      feel free to bump in anytime Welshgirl.Others have helped me heaps so hopefully I can help others. Like Karen says great being able to chat. We are such martyrs such wonder women who go from doing everything - well I did working, running the house, childminding my grandson to told we can't do basically anything. I wasn't prepared for that and the emotional drain that has put on me. Recovery is so much slower than I expected and illogical. I felt ok the first week. It is hitting me hard now.back on pain killers and no sleep as sitches are painful as they are tightening. matron & the ladies on this forum will give you as they have me the strength to carry on. The reassurance that everything is normal , your outsides aren't about to fall out again LOL and the advice and help I have needed - only week 2 and more than 6 to go before myspec check up and I know such a long road to recovery but with karen, matron's and other fellow forum ladies help I know I will get there in the end. SO WILL YOU.  Try not to be anxious as lack of sleep will not help. Re joice in the positive posts and acknowledge but move on from the negatives. It's only a few months and our quality of life will be so much better for it.  Here if you need me but ry and remember the time differnce about 11 hrs over uk at the moment and that I might not get back to you straight away, but sure others will. 
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      I had my surgery the same day Karen.  I am in Toronto, Canada. It is so reassuring to hear that everyone is experiencing the same things.  Everyone is so positive.  I  went out to the grocery store with my hubby today and you would think I had walked miles.  I was worried it would cause bleeding but nope, just sore and tired.  It felt good to get out today. It was worth the mental boost.
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      Hi Tamara, soory to butt in but couldn't help notice. Definately small world  had mine same day too. I too went for small trip , felt good being useful and getting out, but suffering today. taking it easy for the rest of the week.Even though I live in Australia, Karen lives in the Uk and you live in Canada we are all experiencing similar conditions. Except the weather of course, heard Uk had snow, I expect you have snow lot there Tamara and here it is our summer well just autumn but still sunny and hot .. 30 . Least can sit out in sunshine for a while. Been pottering around my garden too or I'll go stir crazy. 
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      It is snowy and cold here.  Puttering in  the garden is a few months away.  I am scheduled to go back to work in two weeks and  I am a little worried I won't be able to manage it. Still takes me a lot of energy to make dinner. I stretch it out for the afternoon. Cut a bit, rest a bit. How long is someone normally off after this surgery?
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      It is snowy and cold here.  Puttering in  the garden is a few months away.  I am scheduled to go back to work in two weeks and  I am a little worried I won't be able to manage it. Still takes me a lot of energy to make dinner. I stretch it out for the afternoon. Cut a bit, rest a bit. How long is someone normally off after this surgery?
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      It all depends on individual circumstances from what I have read and ladies I have talked too. But I think to give your surgery the best chance of success the main key is rest. Especially in those criticla first few weeks. I am just going to do and listen to what my body says. If you would have asked me last me when I felt ok , I would have said I could go back this week. But really starting hurt now healing, least hope that why it's hurting and cant imagine going back when I am so tired and drained. I was and still am planning to go back to work between 3 and 4 weeks but just a few hours. Driving will be an issue as I don't think my insurance will let me drive until after I have been seen by my specialist. For me I can work from home and have all ready done an hour or so a few days with wages etc. So i don't think I will go back in to work until I can drive myself. So sorry to be so vague, most ladies go back after 8 weeks but some it is much longer only last week couple of ladies posted going back after 13 weeks and then they were still exhauisted. I think a gradiated return on light duties is probably best and I also gess it depends on complexity of your surgery and how well you are healing and coping and if you have other health issues to consider. Then of course there is always the dreaded word Money to be brought into the equation.I only had a posterior prolapse with perinuem scar removal my surgery was about an hour. I was kept in over night as I didn't come round from surgery for ages and when I did I was cold and had a really low heart rate. A few hours later and I was up walking, I wanted the catheter out so I could sleep. The lady in the next bed had major keyhole surgery to lift her vault and her surgery was almost 4 hours. She was in for a few days and would be going home with her catheter in as she had also had mesh and it might fail if her bladder was allowed to fill before the mesh had taken. We got chatting and I was horrified to learn that she was planning to go back to work in just 5 days time - yes with her catheter & bag. She felt she had no choice as only her .. her business and it would close and she would loose all her clients .. they weren't mean just needed the gods she supplied daily and would have to go elsewhere. So sorry but no easy answer. Do what you have to do. Listen to your body. Go back  to work early only if you have to and try and make it a gradual return or ask if you can go on light duties. Maybe there is somewhere you could go and put your feet up to take the pressure of your bottom etc. For me there isn't .If you do agree to go back early maybe you could explain to your boss how serious the surgery and how long the recovery can be and that you'd like to try. If ypou're not up to it. hopefully you can work something out or take a few extra weeks. Hope your boss is great and understanding. Sure you will work it out. Sorry for long post,. Time for my rest now. Try and get off my bottom for at least an hour or 2 every afternoon. Keep smiling.

       

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      Hi I too did a little trip to supermarket it did give me a mental boost but after I felt as if I had ran a marathon. Not changed another outing since although I am starting to get restless I will not be considering going back to work until at least 8 weeks after. Good to talk to others you get comfort from knowing others have experience of the same op. 
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      Hi Tilley hope all is going ok for you I have had my feet up for a couple of days as I got a lot of soreness and swelling it felt like I was growing testicles ha ha. After resting for a couple of days it seems to have settled again. I totally agree with your reply to Tamara rest rest rest. X
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      Hi Riley,your so kind.thankyou do much for your rerply,and all tghr other lovely ladies. I lived in Calgary for 4 Yeats with my husband's job.. Very cold in the winter and boiling hoit in the summer ad you most probably know Canadians are lovely friendly people.

      I have been on this'd forum for a few months and its fantastic.

      The tightening off the stitches has made me wince lol.diud yoiu have ant repair hun. Thanks again,and hugs and speedy healing.💕

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      Thanks for all your thoughts. I took some advil today, during the day and it really helped. I have been trying to only take the painkillers at night but today, after reading all the posts I realized I am silly to not take something. a break from the pain is such a mental boost. I still feel tired but the relief definately makes me cheerier.  I am usually so active but I know that I need to still rest even if I am not ireally wishn pain. That is the hard part. I still really wish I had been more prepared fro the length of time this surgery takes to recover from.  Reading the posts and hearing from everyone else's experience has been such good medicine.

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