16 year old girl really looking for advice on what to do with myself

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I’ve never done anything like this(posting on a website or whatever I’m doing at the moment) and Have no idea if I’m posting this on the right website if this isn’t the right kinda page  can sombody kindly direct me to a page that will do so if it exists as my doctor doesn’t seem to know what he’s at) I’m a 16 year old girl who has it pretty good, I’m smart and loved. In grade 8 (13yrs) I was diasnosed with  generalized anxiety disorder. Always a anxious little girl stayed home from school because I had a “nervous belly” had a healthy fear of dangerous things often got anxious for no reason. I would often stay up all hours of the night full panic attack tantrum  just because I was scared of not getting enough sleep I’d often throw tantrums that were rough to watch but short lived. I’d feel a wave of guilt and depression all day sometimes longer. as I grew up the anxiety got worse with school and going through hard times at a young age. My mental health took a quick downward slope and I had major painful panic attacks (luckily I kept a diary through a lot of this) my family doctor prescribed be with Prozac 10 (June 14 2016) and slowly built me up until my anxiety calmed down but with that I became suicidal. Dr. switched me to Zoloft (all this time I’ve been smoking marijuana which I know probably wasn’t great at so young but it kept me happy and I was a hard case I still to this day do it every single day) But I quickly realized mixing marijuana, Zoloft, epilepsy medication(a misdiagnose) and taking the pills on and off because I didn’t want to be taking them was a very bad idea and again went through a very sad scary time. Finally my doctor put me on ventflaxin 37.5 and I eventually needed more n more so dr. Put me on the “name brand” effexor xr and i finally felt okay! I would have to build up every so often but it was doing wonders I so much better. By June 2018 I was taking 262.5mg of effexor and I felt it wasn’t doin the trick. The anxiety was starting to come back as was the depression. Me, a hypochondriac as my mother says always think there’s gotta be somthing more, I’m still not right. I may be better but not right one day I came across an article on adhd which was like the one thing I definitely thought I didn’t have as I assumed adhd was like “disruptive at class time” “couldn’t stay seated” “climbing in odd places”

But as I read more on it it described my life and there’s alot more to it then all that especially in girls apperently. I told my doctor and he said “I’ll be damned if you diagnosed yourself instead of me!” I was really happy because this might be it I might end up right! Since it’s summer break I really wanna be okay by September and want to know the full effects of the concerta they have put me on so I got off the effexor I weaned myself off it In four days as though to rip off the bandaid cause I like to consider myself tough and want the withdrawals to be over by September of my grade 11 year but comming off these effexor might just be the hardest of all my mental health journey. I cannot relax or I will break down in tears and the depression will take over I’m having panic attacks as bad as before I ever got on medication I feel very suicidal and don’t want to go on anymore even though I have great support all around me and I’m very blessed physically I am in chronic pain all over,extreme headaches,insomnia and brain shivers and I think I’m experiencing a bit of Vertigo too. I’ve takin lorazepam when I have a panic attack and half a clomazapam to help the withdraws. I’m wondering :

1.how long will this last?

2.Is there any good food or natural things to help through withdrawals?

3. Will the depression fade or will I stay this low?

4. Should I maybe start a less harsh antidepressant with the concerta? 

Soon considering the hospital for some advice and  psychiatrists around here scarce 

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    Dear brookynn350,

    We note from a recent post which you have made to our forum that you may be experiencing thoughts around self-harm. If we have misinterpreted your comments then we apologise for contacting you directly. But if you are having such thoughts then please note that you are not alone in this, and there are people out there that can help.


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    Brook, going off of that med like you did, according to my psychiatrist is a bad idea. I've been on the same med effexor er, for over 17yrs, it stopped helping, and over a 2 month weaning period, per my family drs advice, was way too fast. I do take xanax for the anxiety while going thru this withdrawl. I have heard so often about how this is one of the hardest meds to come off of. I've been to the ER, but the best thing I've done is started seeing a specialist who knew right away what I was going thru. The only thing that you can do is try and be patient, which I know sucks, because you struggle day in and day out. I tell myself that this is temporary, I never really had suicidal thoughts, but if you are, I advise going to the hospital. I hate that anyone has to go thru this, it's been tough, but I've been feeling a slow improvement, I mean very slow, since only being off of it since the end of June. I have learned that the hospital will not admit you unless you are suicidal, then you are in limbo until getting an appt to see a specialist. It's very frustrating!

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    Sounds like you're going through the wars young lady smile

    I can't answer any of your questions, but I would suggest that you stop taking marijuana (Cannabis). You say you take it to make you happy, but - you're not happy!

    marijuana can cause mental illness in some people, so I suggest you stop taking it.

    Don't stop taking it in one go, reduce the amount you take each day slowly, until after two months you have stopped.

    Take an online test for autism (google "free autism test"wink.

    See whether you can get some therapy, such as CBT - this does help some people.

    Good luck.

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      I am goin through the war that is sure right! I wanted to quickly wean myself off them as I think I’d rather have really bad withdrawals for a shorter amount of time then mild withdrawals that will take months to stop. I stopped smoking the past three days and I’ve had major outlashes (which might be from the effexor or because when I smoke weed it really helps keep those “tantrums” rare and not as harsh as that’s a part of the adhd. I also have stomach problems so cannabis really helps the  nausea all these years and keeps me from embarrassing myself being so hyper.  
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      Marijuana is a natural grown plant..if you feel better smoking it then go for it...I'd rather do that then having to take all the pills dr.s prescribe.....how long you been off the venflaxin? Ur Dr shld help u ween off them...if u stop cold turkey it will make you worse than what you were before you took them...

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      My daughter had depression and anxiety in high school and hid it very well. She went undiagnosed for many years. Functioned but wasn't living. She went to college and behave doing drugs because marijuana not longer made her feel better. She moved on to snorting heroin and had now completed impatient rehab and currently in a halfway house. So your advice to smoke pot is horrible advice. It's a gateway drug ESPECIALLY people with depression and anxiety.

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      Well my experience is the opposite of yours...it works differently for each person....I've known many ppl that smoke weed and that's all they do n they been doing it for over 30 yrs...so as I said it differs from person to person...and as for a gateway drug ...that's not even true...it's the person's choice... marijuana is legal in most states soon to be in all states...if it was a gate way drug do u think they wld legalize it? Besides it helps with so many things...do some research...that's my opinion and we all have one...

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      Well....you asked the question if why would it be legalized. Because it's a big money maker for the state.... Bottom line. It's always about the money. Second, it's very expensive to prosecute. Again, money being the bottom line.

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