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17 years old with Erectile Dysfunction

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WallaceNick
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This will probably get pretty long, but just bear with me. So I'm 17 years old and I've been experiencing erection problems for as long as I can really remember (I'm not sure if they happened before I was 13, but I just can't remember) and for the longest time, I just thought it was because I was on Prozac. When I was 13, I had some mental issues and started Prozac 20 mg (which is an SSRI, notorious for sexual dysfunction side effects) and when I was 15, I had a relapse and increased my dose to 40 mg, but was able to knock it back down to 20 mg right when I turned 17. My problems are getting an erection (as in for the most part, I can get it semi-hard, sometimes even hard enough to penetrate (but just barely)) but losing it quickly (even when masturbating) and sometimes having no sex drive. I knew it was the Prozac, but until recently, I wasn't mentally strong enough to come off of it. It wasn't a problem until I tried to have sex for the first time at 15 (I know, young age, but not the point) I wasn't able to get hard AT ALL. Nothing. I figured my main problem there was my nerves (I was EXTREMELY nervous) but after we talked about it, we tried again, and whilst it was nowhere near fully erect, it was just enough for a little bit of action. We didn't try using a condom because I knew I would lose it the second I got "out of the zone" to put a condom on. But anyways, any time we tried to have sex after that, we'd have about a 30% success rate vs a 70% fail rate. Each time, I was nervous, but on the times I was successful, I wouldn't have any problems. Even if I was nervous. But on the days I failed, nothing would happen. And I was equally as nervous as on the days I succeeded. So I ruled out performance anxiety. It wasn't the girl either because the same thing happened with my second sexual partner. So I came off the Prozac because I was so damned tired of dealing with this. It's now been around 50 days of Prozac free. I have meed swings and occasional dizziness from withdrawals. I have increased sex drive, but my erections are still an issue. At this point, I am devestated. I have no idea what to do. I was so sure it was the Prozac. I understand that Prozac has a long half life and it takes a long time to completely flush out, but that long time is only 30-40 days. It's completely out. And sexual dysfunction is not a withdrawal effect. And I thought "well maybe it's the mood swings and I just have a hard time getting into the mood and staying focused" but I don't have erections in the morning or any during the day. I have nothing. I can masturbate and climax without a problem, but my penis only gets 100% erect when I'm about to climax. And even then, I can quickly lose it if I'm not careful. I thought maybe I was masturbating too much or that I was watching too much porn. So I quit porn 2 weeks ago. I thought maybe I was masturbating too much (around once a day) but I've researched and researched, and there is no connection between erectile dysfunction and masturbation. Masturbating too much only affects the intensity of the orgasm and the relapse period. I would say it's just stress from thinking about it too much, but like I said, I have no morning erections or daily erections either. I have no idea what is going on. I'll admit, I'm fearful of my next sexual encounter, but at the same time, I'm anticipating it. I want to have sex. I have the desire, I just lack the ability. And then I just wonder if maybe I need to actually be with a woman for it to happen and that masturbating just isn't getting my knickers off anymore. But in the past, this has happened when I am with a girl too. I cannot wrap my head around this. I have done so much research in my 4 (almost 5) years of dealing with this. I have found many answers as to why this may happen, but I just haven't discovered my particular reason. I think it could be a combination of both physical and mental problems. Perhaps I have the inability, which makes me depressed, which makes me anxious, which then makes me fear sex. But another minute, I have all the eagerness in the world and I'm ready as all hell to get it on, and then..... Nothing. No erection. I know this may have been excessive, but my ultimate goal in life is to fall in love with a beautiful woman, and to be able to give her all of my being. Sex is a part of an intimate, loving relationship. I don't want it because I want to party and to have sex all the time. I want it because without it, that beautiful girl of mine will say it's okay, but it's not for me. I want to give her everything, and just knowing that I can't kills me. She'd deserve a perfect man, romantically and sexually. Knowing that I couldn't fulfill both of those.... I'm just so tired of this. I want it to end. I am in a never ending nightmare. I feel like I can;t be happy. Just please. Help.

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  • Islay
    Islay WallaceNick

    Posted

    ED (or Impotence) is unusual in someone your age, but take heart that it is probably temporary. We all have erections at night when we're asleep - young and old - in our REM (rapid eye movement) stage of slumber; we just don't know it at the time, except it's usually accompanied with dreams which we may or may not remember. You are no different. It's nature's way of keeping a penis healthy. Even baby boys have erections - and I'm sure you were the same!

    Try to relax and stop worrying. Easy to say, I know, but the more you worry the more your problem is worsened. You have plenty of time to meet a girl and share a mutual love together - and if she's right for you she will help you just by being herself. She won't expect. a "perfect man".

    Or go to your doctor and he/she will willingly advise you. Alternatively, see this link below from the NHS.

    http://www.nhs.uk/chq/pages/882.aspx

    I wish you well.

  • mike_18858
    mike_18858 WallaceNick

    Posted

    alot of things can cause a man to not have a 100% erection. Mostly due to being nervous. but somtimes thinking about what the girl would think and how you think this and that can cause you to not function 100%. as well as penis size and the pressure of wondering if its enough to please her. are 100% comfortable with your partner? if not that can also have a play in that department. try lots of foreplay. use our hands and your mouth. think of nothing else and just focus on her. I use to just jump into it and like you i loose momentum to while changing position it gose flacid fast. So i did alot of foreplay. and found that hearing her breath hard gets my blood flowing. turns out that was my trigger that gets me to good erection. and most of all be yourself. put all your thoughts at easy and think of nothing else but your partner.
  • Guest
    Guest WallaceNick

    Posted

    I've read that doing kegels actually help with this kind of problem and also garlic and a few other herbs to help a man get a stronger erection
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