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2 and a 1/2 yrs post meno - are these symptoms normal?

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stella21064
stella21064

Hi gals, my last period I believe was at the end of 2020.

I have good days when I feel this is "all in my head" .. but the bad days. 😣 My goodness. I will explain the symptoms and if anyone is in early/mid post, please let me know if you can relate.

  • Waking up in a complete panic ☀️ in the morning. Hands are shaky.
  • Burning arms, tops of thighs.
  • Vibrating feeling in both feet.
  • Strange, negative thoughts. Afraid of my own medication, feeling hopeless about everything, for that day.
  • Seeking constant reassurance that this is menopause and it will pass.
  • Extremely tired, so try to take a nap, and then getting confused or panicky when falling asleep, body jerks, leg kicks, sometimes feels like I'm sleeping in another room, until I open my eyes. It's like meno-brain when I try to take a nap. This only happens on the bad days.
  • Restless legs middle of night - I can handle this one.
  • WORST SYMPTOM: This jittery, nerve-wrecking almost pain like feeling running through my arms and legs. It's like restless leg syndrome but it's like my nerve endings are being irritated - imagine like a toothache throughout the arms and legs.. and that causes me to panic. It usually comes with the sunburn feeling on upper arms, shoulders, tops of thighs
  • On and off rocking/swaying - imbalanced.. but I've actually gotten used to this one. Seems to go away when well-rested.

Can anyone relate? Sometimes by night, or even the middle of the night, things seems to settle. I always wake up between 2-5 am. Then try to get back to bed. It is not easy.

Do hormones still fluctuate in post meno? Peri was a breeze compared to this.

Thanks for reading..

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  • Cass63
    Cass63 stella21064

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    Hello Stella,

    I honestly could have written your post. I have every symptom you listed and them some. I have been post menopause 10 years. I just came off of a decent length of time where I was not symptom free, but symptoms were more manageable.I thought it was behind me, but everything started back on me in December and the last few weeks have been identical in symptoms when I first started this journey, but with a vengeance that is some kind of bad. I too wonder if hormones can still fluctuate this late in post menopause. My doctor has said I am to old to be still having menopause symptoms, I will be 60 in September. I really wish I could give you some advise but I am still so in the dark myself after all these years later. Praying we both can find some relief.

    GOD Bless

  • vivian72668
    vivian72668 stella21064

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    Hey There, Stella...

    What you're experiencing is NORMAL! You are NOT alone, my dear! Your hormones are imbalanced, and are always fluctuating, until this sugar, honey, ice tea is OVAA, and my friendgirl;s mother says it goes to the grave with us! 😭😭😭 Welcome to your NEW NORMAL. if you have time my dear, please read some of my posts, regarding post-menopause; I have been in this HORMONAL-HORRORDOM for six plus years and counting! Post-menopuase does NOT go away quietly, it is a friggin beast, to say the least! Contrary to popular belief, there are WAYYYYY.... MORE than 66 documented symptoms, I am a firm believer, there are 100-plus symptoms; especially the ones no one wants to talk about, you know the mental ones, hence, negative thoughts, ruminating thoughts, cray-cray thoughts, suicidal thoughts, racing thoughts, and of course, things come to your mind, that are just soooo... ridiculous, you think to yourself: huh, wth? Anyhoo, many doctors (both male and female) don't like for us womenfolk to talk about thee M word, it makes them uneasy, (Shut the front door and call me Mary) and so they quickly dismiss us, yet what we're experiencing is REAL, it is as REAL as it gets, especially in the morning when many of us are riddled with anxiety! Smdh! On that note, be well, my menopausal sistah.

    • stella21064
      stella21064 vivian72668

      Posted

      Thank you both for the replies.

      May I just ask, sometimes I'll get enough sleep, and still wake up with burning thighs, arms, panic, and the whole day is shot. Even my state of mind is in a bad place. Everything is negative. No appetite. The same can happen if I don't sleep well.

      And if I take a nap, crazy, distorted images and feelings creep up where I feel genuinely crazy. And the second I wake up, my face gets hot with fear and I am no better off than before the nap. Possibly worse.

      And yes, most mornings are dreary and all I feel is fear.

      But then I get the random "good day" when I feel like myself and I don't feel the unsteady rocking on a boat feeling that I've been suffering with for the last 8 months or so.. I feel like myself. It's almost freaky.. so I try my best to see what I did "right" the day/night before so I can have more good days, but even if I copy it to a tee, it doesn't work. The rocking feeling/sensation is back.. burning/prickly feeling is back, strange nerve pain throughout the arms and legs like someone is tickling my nerve endings with a hot poker.

      I guess what I'm asking is: Are good days and bad days just random? Do we have no control over them, because it's meno that's in control?

      And yes Viv I have read many of your posts! Not that many post-menos on here so I do tend to gravitate towards your posts.

      Let me know if your good days and bad days are just random!!

      Thank you both 💗

      May God help us through 🙏

    • Cass63
      Cass63 stella21064

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      Hello Stella,

      I personally can say my good and bad days come at random. I honestly don't know how I will feel from one minute to the next. It makes planning anything impossible. I have not found no way to gauge a formula to be able to figure out how to have a good day, nothing works. Just from time to time a decent day or even half a day will arrive and I am so thankful and pray that it will last. I really thought I would be through this journey by now and according to my doctor I am. She says I am to old for this to be menopause symptoms. So then that puts my mind to spinning and thinking I have something else wrong with me. It is a crazy cycle!

      Praying that we all can find some relief.

      GOD Bless

    • stella21064
      stella21064 Cass63

      Posted

      Thanks Cass63, I really appreciate your response and I'm so sorry to hear you are going thru this after so many years. That doesn't seem right. I don't think there's something else going on, esp since the symptoms are the same as they always were before.

      But I'll tell you a thought that has crossed my mind from time to time.

      This is so traumatic to me, it truly is.. that I've wondered maybe when/if it's finally over, would I actually know it's over? Has my mind grown so fearful of these unpredictable symptoms that perhaps it won't even know when the process is over?

      Almost like post traumatic stress disorder. And the longer it goes on..

      I don't know. Just one of my many, many terrible thoughts I have.

      I will pray you see some improvement soon.

      ❤️❤️

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