4 Months...

Sue - ok so you;ve had a few slips - everyone knows its not easy.  I havent yet started to quit.  First home detox soon and Im scared to death after nurse stops coming in with the medication.  I am so used to my afternoon drink  every day, dont know what I will do without it!   I could do with come encouragement and support from people like you who have quit, fell off the wagon, but quit again!  Well done you!

 

Good for you. You're determined to do it and you will ☺A slip doesn't make a failure as you know. Look at what triggered it so next time you can try something different. I think it's amazing that you've stopped for so long. It's a learning curve though isn't it

hi Sue - thats what happens - and then you wonder why did i start again ? listen sometimes there are no answers- i know alot of people talk about triggers and people,places and things that lead to relapse- you know the biggest reason for relapse, we are addicted  to alcohol- simple as - i had many, many slips and wasted alot of time beating myself up and looking for reasons- what really matters is how you deal with the relapse- put it behind you and start again- hey what matters is today- deal with that, then worry about tommorow when it gets here- it wont be long coming around- day by day- suddenly you are 2 days sober, then 4 ------- then a week - thats how it works ------- find what works for you and stick with it- there is no road map to staying sober EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT AND MUST FIND THIER OWN PATH - hang in there - keep the faith - YOU WILL GET THERE - best of luck Sue - keep posting here for support- never be afraid to reach out - we all need a hand now and then -

I think you've had a lot of support and guidance here Sue - I hope everyone will think about me from the 18th when I start my first detox!

Oh Sue, I have no doubt whatsoever that you will do it again. 

I thought that quitting smoking was hard, it nearly broke me....but I still haven't managed to conquer the drinking.  It is so hard, we all know that.

You are a strong, determined lady and you will do it, I will be watching out for your updates.

Pat xxx

Hi sue...never give up...it took me three home detoxes, and four sections for months at a time, many, many years under the CAS. . BUT I have now been SOBER FOR NEARLY THIRTEEN YEARS, AND ALL THE CRAVINGS HAVE GONE....

I was thought of as a hopeless case, damage to every organ in my body, near death quite a few times...four overdoses...many slips, far too many to count...but I have got my life back...and more importantly my husband and my four children and my new 3 week old grandson have got me back....

I know how hard it is . If you have a slip then think tomorrow is a NEW DAY...it took me years, but I also think it makes us more understanding and compassionate people....

I truly wish you well sue, and great big hugs to you....you WILL GET THERE...DAY BY DAY....LOVE DEIRDRE XXX

Cheers! 

Don't believe I'll EVER stop drinking.  Only thing that gets me through a bad night sometimes. 

I applaud anyone who DOES quit, though. I did it for two years, once. I felt so GOOD. Couldn't last,  however. My husband, then, didn't really WANT me to be sober. He needed me to be a drunk - so that he had some control over me. Sober, I could see clearly where the cracks were in our marriage. I acknowledged my faults. I tried to make good. And I DID.  He couldn't acknowledge his faults, though. More sober I got, more he backed away. He was afraid of the new me. He took to making up tales of my drunkeness. Throughout my two years of total sobriety, he lied to his family about my state.  Oh, I didn't know what he'd been telling his family, not until he ran away with my so-called best friend. Much later, I learned what he'd been saying about me......So many LIES! According to him, I'd been so drunk all the time that I'd stopped doing any housework; the house was dirty, he had no clean clothes, I'd stopped cooking - and he'd had to stop giving me housekeeping money - because I was spending it on booze and - worse! Apparently, I'd been spending the housekeeping on  - get this - my, 'frequent boyfriends and dope......'

Snigger, snigger......Where I was supposed to meet these, 'boyfriends,' I had no idea. He'd stopped me going out. As for dope; I'd not smoked any such in many years. He claimed that our house had been damaged by my drunken tantrums. There were holes in the palster - all over our house - from my throwing heavy objects at him, missing and hitting the walls. His evidence was a few holes in the chimney breast. They ahd been caused by pictures etc that we'd hung there - and that had fallen off because the plaster was weak.  Biut, his afmily believed his tales. 

You wouldn't believe that anyone could sustain such a campaign of harrassment as he put me through over years, just so that he didn't have to pay me a penny for the bills he'd left me with when he ran away.

It still sickens me, more than twenty years later, to remember what he & is mistress did to me- the sickness of their campaign. 

Get this: at one point - and it went on for four months - they posted stickers in phone boxes, public and pub toilets, giving my name and phone number as that of a prostitute. I endured calls, day and night for months, from men who wanted to know what I charged for my services......

I became totally phobic about the phone.  To this day, I'll not answer the landline unless I'm expecting a call. 

But, since that time, life has changed. For the very worst. I'm in constant pain, from a spinal disorder. I lost my elder son to cancer. 

I'm drinking. I do it too often, I know.  It's all I know at this point. I don't think I can quit.