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4 weeks post op after rectalceil surgery

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lynn03436
lynn03436

Hi has anyone had a problem where when you can't hold your self and when you do it feels like you're inside are going to fall out , I'm 4 weeks post after rectalceil surgery finally feeling a bit normal but there are days i don't feel right I'm not looking forward to next week cause I nowmy Husband is looking forward for to having intercourse but I'm still very nervous about that yet but the dr did say a week and half well that will be it lovely don't get me wrong i do love my husband just very nervous it's almost like our wedding day also i have a back injury and there are days the pain is pretty bad does anyone experience that too

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  • Kym04
    Kym04 lynn03436

    Posted

    Hi Lynn

    I had rectocele and cystocele repair and was checked by my specialist at 6 weeks and advised to wait till 8 weeks before having sex. I didn't have any symptoms that u r describing tho.

  • Pollyward69
    Pollyward69 lynn03436

    Posted

    Don’t be rushed into having sex until you’re ready, it’s your body, not your husband’s or the doctors that’s given the green light!

    When YOU are ready, YOU give the green light!

  • welshgirl67
    welshgirl67 lynn03436

    Posted

    It's very coming to feel heaviness after repairs of front and back.

    My consultant told me it's a reminder that long holds while doing pelvic floor is very important..

    Also I feel 4 wks is way to early for sex .. For me it took months to build up confidence.I still had stitches at 8 wks.

    • lynn03436
      lynn03436 welshgirl67

      Posted

      That's what I thought I even told my dr isn't that to early he said you have to start soon it's like when you have a baby yeah we wait 6 weeks im not quite there yet im not jumping right into it and my husband is patient he nose it's all up to, me

    • Pollyward69
      Pollyward69 lynn03436

      Posted

      “You have to start soon”?!!!

      What an outrageously sexist thing to say!! There’s absolutely no rush fgs,  I hope a female Doc would have a different view but then again a male doctor should be more professional than to say that!!

    • lynn03436
      lynn03436 Pollyward69

      Posted

      My thoughts exactly it must be a male thing ,he is a good dr but believe you me my body is not ready for that right now i don't care what dr says when I'm ready is when I'm ready!

  • shirley1955
    shirley1955 lynn03436

    Posted

    I'm sorry to hear that your having such a horrible time,and yes I've also had bladder and bowel surgery unfortunately it was so drastic that intercourse is not possible,but that feeling you get is quite normal and when your ready to have intercourse it should only be when your ready,it is frightening,I felt the same after my hysterectomy,I'm sure you husband is very supportive,have a lovely relaxing bath and don't be pressured into anything take your time,tell your husband how you feel,some times it's good to talk about it and just have a cuddle.

  • shirley1955
    shirley1955 lynn03436

    Posted

    Hi, let's face it,if it was a man that had any kind of surgery,do you think that they would still be so keen to get back to it,somehow I don't think so lol.

  • Bobsey
    Bobsey lynn03436

    Posted

    I’m 3 weeks post hysterectomy and posterior repair. I get a very heavy falling out feeling , not sure if that is the same thing you are feeling. I’ve started to do pelvic floor exercises on and off but they are very very weak. As for having intercourse - definitely no where near even contemplating that. How insensitive of your consultant. It might be worth seeing your gp just for a bit of reassurance. X x
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