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6.5 weeks post op Rectocele repair hard spot at Vaginal opening

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Concernedhubby
Concernedhubby

My wife & I had sex last night for the first time since her Rectocele repair. There is a hard spot in her tissues right at the opening. I was wondering what this could be. Everything feels tighter but the opening feels different and it hurts me. Is this permanent?

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  • kp1407
    kp1407 Concernedhubby

    Posted

    I agree with Laura. That’s very early on. I didn’t have sex till 12 weeks after and even then I wasn’t overly comfortable.

    I’m now 6 months on and it’s easier but I’m very aware of the differences inside, and ridges of scar tissue, but My husband doesn’t notice it  and says it doesn’t affect him. 

    At 6.5 weeks I was still very swollen, sore and had a lot of stitches still in. 

    I can’t say whether it’s permanent or not but I’d imagine there’s still some healing and settling down to be done. 

  • sheila89754
    sheila89754 Concernedhubby

    Posted

    It’s scar tissue, that will soften, BUT 6.5 weeks is very early to be having penetrative sex! 😳 Take a look on YouTube to see the surgery your wife has had, masses of stitches which take a long time to heal. Twelve weeks is more realistic and possibly up to six months.  

    Patience is very hard but essential for her ......

  • welshgirl67
    welshgirl67 Concernedhubby

    Posted

    Yes I agree.. I'm 13 wks hysterectomy and front wall repair and I haven't built up my confidence yet..

    I bet she was feeling very sore at that early on.

    Please allow her more time to heal,but I'm sure you are supporting her all you can.

    When you do have intercourse please us a natural water based lube like yes yes yes. It's so like her own moisture with no nasty ingredients.She can also get off her gp.

  • Concernedhubby
    Concernedhubby

    Posted

    For some reason her surgeon cleared her for intercourse & said her stitches would be dissolved by now. Is he overly optimistic? It was minimally invasive.

    • sheila89754
      sheila89754 Concernedhubby

      Posted

      Was her surgeon a man? Their advice tends to be optimistic!

      Twelve weeks is far more likely to be the time when it may get easier for you two, be patient. It is likely to be scar tissue, which will settle down, with time. 

    • welshgirl67
      welshgirl67 Concernedhubby

      Posted

      Yes way to over optimistic lol.

      All consultants have there own aftercare.

      If she has stitches then I would not be putting anything inside.

      I would allow stitches to heal and fall out themselves. I'm surprised you didn't have scratched on yourself

      I'm sure outercourse is fine if she was orgasm but please ask her consultant.

      Good luck,you sound a very supportive husband?

    • LaZgardener
      LaZgardener Concernedhubby

      Posted

      They seem to have a standard "6 weeks" policy, but every surgery is slightly different and every woman's body heals differently. The term "minimally invasive" only means the method used does not require opening the abdominal cavity, which can be dangerous. It does not mean "minor surgery", but I can see how it might sound misleading. This is a very long recovery. 6 weeks is around the time that swelling is supposed to be resolving, but  if you remember that she has the bulk of her bodyweight pressing down on the incisions all day long, you can see why things don't always go according to schedule. I've read elsewhere that undissolved stitches can cause pain for a male partner, so if there are a couple of stitches left that could be it. Try not to worry too much, and just let time do the trick. The doctors usually say "6 weeks" after childbirth, too, but some women need 3 months if the birth was difficult. This is the same kind of thing. Best of luck to you both!

  • Ellie1943
    Ellie1943 Concernedhubby

    Posted

    Hi, much too soon for penetrative sex in my view. Was for me anyway and my surgeon actually said 4-6months recovery for the Rectocele and Vag vault repair I had. Healing internally takes much longer as it's obviously not exposed to air which helps healing externally! All those hard, jaggy bits are scars and probably still some stitches. You sound like a good supportive bloke so try to be patient for her sake and your wife too! lol rolleyeswink

  • Concernedhubby
    Concernedhubby

    Posted

    She noticed a stitch the following morning and it was like mush so I am pretty sure her healing is going well. She surprisingly wasn’t that swollen and actually said she felt better afterward because of the lubrication. She has started using an organic lubricant daily now that’s aloe based and it’s helped her a lot. We learned from the experience at least. She rode a roller coaster yesterday with our son. Haha. I think she’s healed for the most part. She’s a tough one. wink
    • welshgirl67
      welshgirl67 Concernedhubby

      Posted

      Good luck my friend.. I wish your wife the speedest of healing.

      The best organic lubricants on the market is yes yes yes. Take a look they are fabulous.She can also get them off her gp.All natural organic water based and oil based for intercourse.

      The reviews are outstAnding. Good 👍👍

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