Posted , 5 users are following.
my son has aspergers he was diagnosed last year at the age of 33. I have always knew there was something i suspected he was on the spectrum somewhere unfortunatly years ago people were not interested in helping kids with autism unless they were very severe, so i managed by myself and dealt with my sons condition mainly with love nurturing and positive reinforcement, so now here we are in the situation he has 4 children ranging from 7-2 and i believe the eldest has asperges like my son, and all of a sudden things have come to a head with my grandson because he is having major meltdowns they are only happening at home and mostly in connection with his brother who is 5 i believe it has happened because over a period of time with the younger grandson a certain amount of bad behaivour towards his big brother has been allowed to escalate and i have observed my eldest grandson has a deep feeling of injustice about this he is a very intelligent child who takes offence very quickly when things are wrong i have been trying to explain to my son to put himself in his sons shoes and i know how difficult if not impossible this is for him i have tried to ask him to be empathetic but he doesnt get it i have explained he and his partner are the first line of defence for their child(children) and sending my grandson to a naughty step and putting him into issolation when he most needs the love of his parents is not the way to go. i have also suggested making my grandson a safe place in the house to go like a safe cave soft area with soft blankets and cushions, when he was very little he liked to sit in a cupboard and close the door. i bought my grandson a punch bag i thought it might help with frustration
my daughter in law has gone to her gp and asked for my grandson to be assessed gp has agreed and said she will fully support them as their gp so thats a good start but it worries me that my daughter in law thinks my grandson is a danger to the other children he is a very confused sad and misunderstood child i just want to get involved and see what i can do to help. i do have a very good relationship with my son and daughter in law we are a close family
any ideas would be very welcome thank you for reading
2 likes, 5 replies