8 weeks..... advice!!!

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Hi

I’m 8 weeks post rectocele and perenium reconstruction.... I have been doing a bit much like lifting my 18 month old recently but no choice! Anyway still resting lots.

So when I stand and look with a mirror, it’s like a blockage at the opening? It can’t be that much swelling at this point surely... the doctor was able to insert a finger easily but it doesn’t look normal to me at ALL so I feel like crap and no doubt have to go back and see specialist sad 

I tried to feel in there and it just feels horrible like lumpy and again not normal. I know it’s early but I don’t think this looks right! 

If anyone has had similar let me know!

Must go and relax and fetch a glass of wine!!! (This afternoon!!!) 

Thanks all

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  • Posted

    Hi Laura

    I beg you to stop lifting a 10kg kiddie!! I'm ten weeks and lifting no more than 3-4 kgs. I have learned well from the women on this forum. I never want to go thru this op and recovery again - so I won't lift more than about 5kgs, or vacuum etc till I'm 3-4 months. First repairs have the best chance of working; its not worth the risk of undoing it. I lie down for an hour or 2 each day. Good luck - get help! Ruth

  • Posted

    Actually that kinda sounds like hemorrhoids. If so , swelling is the biggest factor and that eventually goes away.
    • Posted

      Kts - haemorrhoids appear at the anus, not the vagina. It will be vaginal tissue swelling exacerbated by too much lifting.. r
  • Posted

    You should not be lifting hun. Can't you encourage your child to crawl up into you?

    You are still eArly days and will be swollen for a while.. It is normal for it to look like a war zone as a lot has been done.

    I would be worried into had been lifting and saw bulges.

    Please get it checked and hope you have done help at home.

    My first anterior failed and I did nothing for 8 wks,the tissues are very weak up until 3 mths then scar tissue strengthens everything up. I know I've been there and it mentally draining.

    I'm nearly 5 mths tvh and anterior and still won't lift an iron.xx

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      Apologies for this awful spellchecker lol
  • Posted

    Hi, Laura,

    If you read through a lot of these posts you will see that many of us faced down that cystocele like bulge in the vagina! I know I did and scared me to death. While I have been extremely careful to do very little lifting, I am fortunate that my kids are grown and my GRANDS are much bigger than 18 months old. I sure wish there was someone close at hand you could ask to come help you out. Try encouraging your baby to crawl up into your lap because lifting is truly hazardous to your healing right now and for several months to come. I know if you had a choice, you would not be lifting at all. Try being creative and making a game out of your baby joining you instead of you lifting your baby. Better to be safe and healed than lifting now and destroying all you have gone through already. Praying you can find someone to help you or you can be creative in some way.

    Also, not sure but you might want to go see your doctor because I had the bulge but I had a anterior and posterior repair as in my bladder had fallen through the vagina but with the rectum and perenium repair...not sure if the bulge would be the same as mine. My advice is rest as much as you can and see if the bulge shrinks...if it does...then hide your mirror!!! 

    Please take care of yourself!

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