A good cry

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This morning im not feeling well. I havent slept comfortably since I left the hospital 7 days ago.

I got up this morning regretting I even had hysterectomy. Frustrated because the one thing i do to relax (hot baths) I cant do. I am still taking stool softners and bms are painful. My husband is supportive however I couldnt help but break down and cry . He suspects hormones. Im sure its probably a combination of hormones and frustration I feel. Does it get better?

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    I have followup tommorow at 11, just a incision check.
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      Sorry to learn you're feeling so low.  This type of surgery is a major life change.  Don't start second guessing your decision--you made it for a lot of good reasons.

      Please try to accept that it will take some time for you and your body to find what's normal for you.  Take each moment as it comes, and know that you will get better!

      (((BIG HUG)))

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    Hi Hun . First sending you big hugs. Im 3 half weeks post op. And it does get better Hun. Think you have to remember you have had a major op and i feel it effects your whole body and listen to your body and take baby steps .ive had a few days were ive cried and just want things back to as normal as i was. Belive are hornmones go into over drive. I am still taking stools meds but i feel its better than straining and putting presure in your stomach so dont best yourself up over that . Try keep thinking in the new year i will be well on the road to recovery and why you had the operation . It does get better but if you are feeling very low speak to your doc . Dont suffer. Its a big operation you have had. Lots of love xx
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    I'm 7 days post op too. Staples are coming out tomorrow.

    I'm not in too much pain now and not taking any painkillers since yesterday but also finding it frustrating. Feel like life is on hold now until the new year.  

    I had a sub-total hysterectomy so i'm not really sure what to expect next or what is normal. :-(

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    Hang in there. I had TAH in July . I felt I could of cryed for England . I felt I was never ever going to get better .hormones all over the place. I'm now back at work . Not going to lIe to you I do still have some cry days. And I get tired really easy. All I can say is listen to your body it will tell you if you are doing to much. Take plenty of rest. X

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    Hi i was exactly the same as you , i liked baths , feeling like i never wished i had it and crying and my hubby helped me in the shower which was hard,i had my moms bath stool for me to step on it to get in the shower, it does get easier trust me , im on week 12 now and still haveing some tummie pain, just take each day as it comes, i still struggle most days, chin up it does get better i havent gone on hrt yet , i tried a herbal which it hasnt helped so i think ive got to go on it 
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    I'm right with you! I randomly burst into tears... I had a full abdominal hystectomy three weeks ago and still feel rubbish I'm 39 so hitting the menopause at 90mph isn't helping and with all the will in the world hubbys is pants lol... I've just got back from DRS and have thrush and a UTI to top me off and I'm still taking meds every 4 hours... I've questioned what the hell have I done.... but this is a long drawn out recovery period, patience, patience and more patience which I'm going to struggle with!

    Thinking about you ya not on your own xx

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      Hi Karen, sorry to bother you but can I ask the reason for your full abdominal hysterectomy? I'm also 39 and have been to see a specialist about having my ovaries removed as my mum dies at age 45 of ovarian cancer and my older sister had her ovaries removed after she turned 40. My doctor has recommended a full abdominal hysterectomy as our gene is likely to be linked to lynch symdrome which is also linked to cancer of the uterus. I have been taken by surprise and don't know what to do as I am currently healthy with a healthy sex life and I'm scared this will be effected.

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      Hello Susan of course you can ask I was diagnosed with endometriosis and andomeyosis, horrific monthly periods where my legs would spasum to the point I could hardly walk :-( my sex life wasn't great as this was painful and I didn't have the urge to even attempt! I'm 4 weeks post op and I'm not going to lie if your active and a social butterfly like I am it hasn't been easy :-( you have to rest loads but this time of year it's been nice watching Xmas movies back to back :-). I am however getting more feelings of wanting to have fun in the old bedroom which is s good sign for me, I've heard it can help with libido and they way I'm feeling it defiantly is :-)

      Your reasons are different Hun but I reckon this way would be safer for your future! I'm on HRT and managing the menopause very well I think a positive attitude really helps :-) ask my anything Hun and wish you all the luck for the future xx

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      Thank you for your quick reply. I've been reading loads but think it's so much better hearing others stories (although I know everyone is different) I am very positive and in the end at least I'm getting the choice and it's not being forced on me. I am active and not sure how easy I'll find it taking it easy for so long but it's not forever I suppose and hopefully within a few months I'll b back to my usual self smile I have a couple of months before back to see the doctor so I'll keep researching but I think if I'm in for a penny I may as well go the whole hog wink I hope you are fully recovered very soon and you enjoy getting 'back on the horse' wink

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    Yes, it really does. I'm a year on from my complete hyster with everything out/gone.  It is a marathon recovery, not a sprint, however much we would like it to be. I'm still not out of the woods following complications and other health issues, but despite this, I don't regret it for an instant.  I would say to anyone having surgery, dont try to rush recovery. You wont do your body or mind any favours in the long run...it's major surgery. Best wishes. K

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