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A message to Partners

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erykah71
erykah71

Hope this attaches okay.

I received this from my fibro support group and thought it would be a good one to share.

Erykah x

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  • kaz_40
    kaz_40 erykah71

    Posted

    erykah 71 Thank you for sharing this with us. I love the words they are sssssssooo true. will be showing hubby later.take care gentle hugs xxsmile
    • erykah71
      erykah71 kaz_40

      Posted

      You're welcome Kaz

      Some of these statements and affirmations should be made into fridge magnets so we, plus loved ones and visiting friends can be reminded often of how fibro affects us

      Hugs back x

    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 erykah71

      Posted

      I like that erkah71 fridge magnet now theirs a buissness oportunity? for us all to join into smile gentle hugs coming your way x
  • loxie
    loxie erykah71

    Posted

    fantastic erykah, brought a tear to my eye in fact.  I had a moment today when I was wanting to ask my partner if he'd packed some tortillas into his bag for evening meal at work, as they werent in the bread bin where they had been earlier.  I looked, then turned to him and said 'did you take the ...........', couldnt think of the word and was hoping he knew what i meant.  Instead I got ' no idea what you're talking about, would help if you made sense' - I got upset and grumpy and said that I would say what I meant if  I could think of the word and all I needed was a little help here.  He instantly felt sorry and tried to help. It's so easy for me to blame them for not understanding but sometimes they too need a little help.  Messages like your attachment can really help two way communication.
    • erykah71
      erykah71 loxie

      Posted

      Awww sweetie, big hug. 

      I know they don't usually mean to sound abrupt but it's so frustrating when partners, children, family..... well everyone really don't think before they speak.

      I used to rib my nan for going through everyones name in the family before getting to the one she wanted and now I do the same thing. I even say one thing when i mean another - for example whilst out shopping a few weeks ago I said to my daughter I need to go down the frozen take away for peas??? I mean what the hell lol 

      Like I said to Kaz, we should make these statements into fridge magnets for constant (gentle) reminders for everyone

      x

  • derek1979
    derek1979 erykah71

    Posted

    thats beautiful and is spot on and thats all we need from our partners is for them to understand and to support us and not judge us by what they cant see cause we may look ok on the outside at times but inside we are hurting and without our partners understanding we hurt so much more
  • Bee70
    Bee70 erykah71

    Posted

    Love it.... Thanks for sharing and so true and meaningful. 

    Gentle Hugs wink x

  • Meg53
    Meg53 erykah71

    Posted

    that about sums it up. Thank goodness for my partner and his sense of humour, compassion and fair play. As for bosses, well I am lucky and no longer working, but I can see this could be a major problem for some. 
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