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I'm a 27 year old woman, and my current relation ship is on the rocks because of me. Please help me.
Without going into too much detail about my past, I have abandonment issues. I obsess over partners cheating on me, dumping me or finding someone better. This has caused all of my previous relationships to fail.
In my current relationship, I obsess over my partner cheating on me. I obsessively check his social media for 'likes' from other females, new females being added to his profiles etc. I am convinced that I will 'catch him out'.
He is a good man who has told me silly lies to protect me and him from my over thinking - such as not telling me when he meets his female best friend (who I have never met, and am uncomfortable with as I know he has talked about me and our issues with her).
I completely break down if I see something that should be insignificant, such as him 'liking' one of his female acquaintances pictures.
I know how crazy I sound. I think rationally until I see something else insignificant, then all rational thinking goes out the window. We have had constant arguments and rows over females on his social media.
This is my problem, I realise this. My past relationships show me that. It doesn't help that he isn't an overly empathic person, so my constant looks for reassurance just make him anguy and push him further away.
Can somebody please offer some advice or anything at all, this is ruining my life.
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