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Abortion over a month ago, need advice

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beth94114
beth94114

I everyone, I have been trolled off most forums as I have been judged so poorly on decisions I have made but would just like advice of people who have been through the same trauma and won't judge me.

I had a surgical abortion against my own choice on the 14th of November. I'll be the first to admit how much I regret going through with it but I can't take it back and if you've been in this situation you know how easy it is to have unprotected sex, I guess I want to get pregnant again..

My question is this, I still haven't had a period and am actually hoping to be pregnant.

I did a clear blue digital yesterday after a positive cheap stick one but the digi came back negative. I then did another stick and it's positive also, these lines are faint.

Does this mean I'm pregnant again or hormones from my previous pregnancy. Please try to refrain yourself from being nasty as I have to live with what I've done and that hurts most

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  • Sally323
    Sally323 beth94114

    Posted

    Hi Beth,

    As this is in the 'infectious mononucleosis' forum, I doubt anyone will be able to give first hand experiences of this issue themselves. However, I'm sorry you're going through this and that people have been mean to you, as if you're not hurting enough as it is.

    I would advise that you call your doctor and ask them; they'll be the ones to truly know how your body is working at this time. Are you positively trying to conceive now? I'd ask a doctors advice about this also, as if it was surgery surely it's intrusive and may affect the womb/bits and bobs that the baby needs to be safe and develop?? I know nothing about these things so am just a friendly stranger trying to help.

    Hope all goes well for you.

    Sally

  • jacqueline22799
    jacqueline22799 beth94114

    Posted

    Hi Beth

    So sorry to hear what you have been through. I am not surprised that you feel you would like to be pregnant again. It sounds like you are grieving for the baby you lost.

    Two things. You may want to wait a couple of months for your heart and your head to heal and to be in a good place to be pregnant again having made the decision when you are feeling less hormonal. The second is that another pregnancy very close to pregnancy can result in miscarriage.

    If you wait a couple of weeks and take a reputable pregnancy test or get you GP Practice to do one for you, this will give you a more reliable answer.

    I hope everything works out for you how you wish it to.

    • beth94114
      beth94114 jacqueline22799

      Posted

      Thankyou for your support and kind answers I know your right in probably waiting it's just not knowing what is hard to deal with xx
  • jacqueline22799
    jacqueline22799 beth94114

    Posted

    I know it is hard Beth. I had a termination no choice as already ha a son and nearly died. Advised by my obstetrician when pregnant again (in spite of birth control not the pill, not allowed) would not survive and to stay alive for my only son and husband. I met with no sympathy and awful prejudice when wheeled down to operating theatre:from the anaesthetist. He was cold hardcase rough with me until the theatre nurse explained what was going on. Too late for me he was very rough with me when he put in a cannula like it was my fault as explanation had not yet been given. Very traumatic. I know all about the nasty side. I was married but still awful people dealing with me without checking the facts. My consultant was lovely and the nursing staff were lovely but my consultant still had to rearrange the anaesthetist's thoughts. Should not be necessary if patient notes are READ PROPERLY

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