Abusing alcohol, doing stupid things , ruining loved ones lives!!

Hey,

Things I would think have to change. If it is that you want a future with this lovely lady then don't risk losing her.........If alcohol causes these issues for you then something has to change ..yeah??? find something else you enjoy that don't involve the booze xx

 

Hi Chris, I understand how easy it is to do things you would never dream of normally when you have had a drink.  You could try going out ,have a meal and a bottle of wine (with your fiancee) and then going home and keeping well away from your phone and your pc.  I really do understand how hard it is to stop, but the very fact that you are aware that it is a problem is a good thing.     Make a pact with yourself that if you  really need a good binge drink to do it at home.    Alcohol counselling can also help a great deal, have a word with your doctor or practice nurse. I wish you all the Best and also your fiancee.  Take care and be kind to yourself. X

Hi Chris, I had a similar issue a while back where after getting a buzz I would call up past girlfriends and only way I was ale to stop this was to get rid of their phone numbers so I would suggest you try temporarily deleting all contact info of the females in your list for a while and see how that goes? At soem point later on you can add just one then see how that goes, if it goes well then add another and so on.

Then get help and stop the roller coaster! Only u can make the first step.....good luck!

Hi Chris, I sincerely hope that you are feeling a little better than you were.

Don't beat yourself up about the things that you have done in the past, apologize

To the people or person you may have hurt and ask if they can forgive you, and try to make every day better.

You so obviously love your fiancee very, very much!!, and I am sure that she feels the same....

Look forward positively, and enjoy every day, also what helps is to try to give small acts of kindness every day, even if it is just a kind and comforting word, or a compliment to raise someone's spirits.........I wish you well, be kind to yourself. 

Deirdre (once a hopeless alcoholic) xx

Hi Chris, 

hope u ur doing better... Did u take the first step to becoming sober?  

Or are u stll riding the roller coaster?

Chris, Perhaps have a read of what you wrote and think through it Firstly, you talk about 'when I have had a decent drink.' What is a 'decent drink'? Getting drunk?

If you have had to delete all your social media accounts because you can't trust yourself not to send random messages that you wouldn't send when sober, there is an issue which needs fixing, I agree with your fiancee.

I believe that you need to get to the bottom of this problem. Alcohol may not be the primary problem, it may simply remove your inhibitions allowing you to do things you wouldn't otherwise do.

You need to ask yourself some questions about yourself and your relationship. Are you doing what you WANT to do? Do you WANT to get married? Do you have a low self-esteem and are grateful that she has stuck by you? Or are you just not ready to settle down and make a commitment to one person?

I got married at 23 which I believe was way too young and spent my 20s having flings with other women because I wasn't ready to be tied down to one person.

I think you need to be clear on the answers to those questions and you may be able to work those out for yourself, or you may find it helpful to talk to someone you fully trust or even a professional counsellor. Feel free to send me a private message.

Change start from yourself. You have to discipline yourself. Seek professional/medical help.

Chris come back we all hear your pain. Clearly .....I can pour my heart out to u .

i could tell u how many years I tried to help my son. I could tell u all the professional help I got him.

i could tell u haw many times he relapsed.

i could tell u no matter what I will always luv him.

I could make a long story shor fast foreword 20 years his is a black out alcoholic.

i could tell u he has been in jail over 32 times.

i could tell u he lives on the streets.

i could tell u someone poured bleach over him while he was passed out.

I could tell u it killed me to see him on life support.

i could tell u he was given a 2nd chance at life.

i can tell u that he threw it down the drain.

I can tell u haw broken my heart is.

I can tell u how much I love him no matter what..

I can tell u life is a gift!