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tasha09639
tasha09639

i haven’t had an OB since 9.2.17 ( that was my very first one ) . the guy i’m dating knows i have HSV 2 . we’ve had unprotected sex because he wants kids . the thing is , he wants to give me oral but i’m scared he will get herpes on his mouth & then i’ll end up w/ herpes on my mouth . 

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  • meme2424
    meme2424 tasha09639

    Posted

    From what I have read you can only get herpes in one place. Like if you have HSV 1 oral you cant get it in your private region. Same applies to HSV 2. 
    • tasha09639
      tasha09639 meme2424

      Posted

      so he can’t get HSV 2 from giving me oral ? i’m confused & still new to this . 

    • cup87879
      cup87879 tasha09639

      Posted

      This is what I read on webmd

      HSV-2 is most often passed by vaginal sex and anal sex. But just as HSV-1 can infect the genitals and cause genital herpes, HSV-2 can pass from one person's genitals to another person's mouth, resulting in oral herpes.

      HSV-2 cannot survive long on a non-living surface, so there is no real risk of getting it from a toilet seat or hot tub, for example.

    • meme2424
      meme2424 cup87879

      Posted

      Well, how they explained it was once the virus settles somewhere it's not going to affect any other area. Does that make sense? Like if you have HSV-2 on your vagina it will not spread to your mouth it only stays in one area. I'm trying to look up what article I found that said this. 

    • meme2424
      meme2424 tasha09639

      Posted

      Sorry, I accidentally tagged the wrong person but when I thought I had herpes I know I read somewhere that the virus only stays in one area. However, I am seeing some other articles that it can happen but its rare.
    • cup87879
      cup87879 meme2424

      Posted

      From what I read it says that it's possible, but most likely won't happen unless you are about to have an outbreak or are having an outbreak. I just found out that I have it back in September, I've been reading alot.

  • cup87879
    cup87879 tasha09639

    Posted

    I've read things that said you can catch the other one even though you have hsv2. The only I found out I have it is because I get tested every year. I thought it was the guy I've been dealing with for almost a year and we wasn't using protection. He did both on me and when he got tested it came back negative for both. My results came back with a low number for positive for 2, but I don't have any symptoms and have never had an outbreak.

  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus tasha09639

    Posted

    He can get it orally, but if he does, that's actually much better than getting it genitally, as HSV2 rarely causes outbreaks and shedding orally. Once you have one HSV type for 4+ months, in theory you should be immune from acquiring that same type elsewhere. Exceptions may occur.

    • cup87879
      cup87879 FelizCastus

      Posted

      Can you still get hsv1 if your partner does end up getting it?
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus cup87879

      Posted

      If you have established HSV2, no, you should not get HSV1. If you have established HSV1, you should not get it at a different site.
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