Advice please?

Keep the baby. I was in you're same place only 2 years ago and I got an abortion. I regret it so much. I cry often wishing I had my baby and I feel so guilty. I think things like "that was my child and he/she is gone because of me." Its so heartbreaking. I also have mental issues. I am bipolar and have bad depression/anxiety and BPD.

Don't do it. You will hate yourself for it. 

This is such a personal and sensitive matter Danielle that I really don't think that anyone other than you can decide what the outcome of this should be.

I am determined not to sway you either way, but I have to say that looking after a baby when you are still a very young person yourself can be very difficult.

If you want to keep the baby you have to be positive that you can look after it yourself, or at least have some form of backup from someone else such as your family who may be able to ease the burden for you.

Also, being a mother can be the most rewarding experience that any woman can ever have.

On then other hand you are still very young, so are you prepared to sacrifice much of your youth, foregoing those nights out with your friends, because that is what is likely to happen?

This is such a difficult decision for one person to make especially someone so young, so what I would advise you to do is to discuss it fully either with your family or with your most trusted friend and do not make any decision until you have.

x

Such a hard decision Danielle; and one only you can make by trusting your head and your heart.  Questions to ask yourself are:  

Am I ready to be a parent?

Is my mental health at risk by becoming a parent?

Can I provide a baby with a safe and loving upbringing?

What will being a parent do to my life and my health and my future?

How will I cope financially?

Can I give the baby a good home?

Can I cope without the support of a partner?

Do I want to have a baby at this stage in my life and development?

No one else should influence your decision because it is you who will either have to live with being a very young parent without much support from the father of the baby, or live with the responsibility of having an abortion.  Take time to make this decision and to feel comfortable with it.  And accept all the counselling help that is offered too please.  You do not have to decide today.

Wishing you the very best for your future whatever you decide.

I meant to add below that you are not the first and you will not be the last to be in this situation Danielle.  It's amazingly hard but you will get through it and life will go on one way or the other.  Hope that you have some family and friends who can support you with the decision.

Please, pleasedo not do it- if you are not sure, or you don't want that baby, please give birth and give it away for adoption.... There are so many people strugglingto get pregnant and dreamingabout a baby. If you give your baby up for adoption, someone's dream can come true and they might adopt your little one.... I keep on hearing about so meny girls and women who went for abortion and their lives were never the same again (worse as they felt guilty and depressed because what they did...). You say you have few mental issues at the moment- what if after abortion it gets worse because of it? I am sure there are very well prepared places ready to help girls like you- that will guide you and help you to go through the pregnancy and support you when you decide to give the baby away/ or keep it.... God bless you...