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karen18699
karen18699

Hi x I've been suffering with anxiety and depression for years....but this year I've got so much worse due to many personal problems which started back at the end of May when my Dad died. I don't as yet want to go into other details but it's been horrendous this year 😢 Im on sick leave from work at the moment, I have been since the end of May, I'm on 100 mg Sertraline and I'm also seeing a councillor. My concern is I really, really don't feel I will be able to return to work....my anxiety and depression have never been so bad 😢 My Dr has said not to worry because she can put me on sick for up to a year but I'm worried about at the end of the year ? My husband is self employed so I worry about how we will cope financially. What happens ? Do workplaces just sack you ? And will I be able to claim anything ? Worrying about the future really isn't helping my anxiety 😔 I would be grateful of any advice x

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  • srk904471
    srk904471 karen18699

    Posted

    Why to worry or fear what will happen after one year ! 

    Fact is, by worrying, you are only hampering the healing . 

    Fear , worry , anxiety , these only damage our brain.

    Well, some element of fear anxiety will always be there but method is to believe that everything  will be ok and in any case, one should prefer shortage of money than having fear. 

    Our biggest possession is peace of mind. All else is external and subject to changing conditions in the world . Why to make peace of mind dependent on these factors. Give priority to peace of mind and THIS IS TEST OF LIFE. 

    Please do not concern yourself with what is going to happen to you.

    just think deeply everyday and what little or more you can do and once you decide to do, do it anyway irrespective of any inner anxiety or concern of result. You shall have the satisfaction of having done what you wanted to do. 

    Fear is our worst enemy. Uproot it from your mind by realising the fact that at deepest level ( of which you are not aware) , you are capable of handling any test of life. 

    Pall shall be fine if you firmly believe . Please. 

    • srk904471
      srk904471

      Posted

      I often take boiled extract of vegetables ( include all types mixed with black pepper etc ) to give brain minerals it needs . It also helps clean the system from toxins and even helps clean negative thoughts if combined with other methods. Drink some juice like pomegranate ( to supplement zinc). 

      Exercise and have some fun please, because all is going to be ok and fine.

  • Jitterbugbabe
    Jitterbugbabe karen18699

    Posted

    I Have the same issue. I'm 26 and have been on my own financially since I was 18. Quit my job at 22 because I couldn't function at work and have been struggling to hold a job and the last month haven't worked at all due to anxiety being very extreme and am scared of not being able to pay my rent and can't afford doctors visits and therapy at this point. It's very hard. I've been working on an online etsy.com shop to just help put food in the fridge. I'm hoping to find a solution to be okay and hope you do too. Did you counselor have any suggestions? I'm most of us are eligible for disability too? 

  • lucy1969
    lucy1969 karen18699

    Posted

    Hi Karen

    I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm in a very similar position, having also been signed off since May.

    I work for a very small company and it's normally me doing the hiring and firing etc so although I've never had to deal with this situation I do know a little about it.

    They can't just sack you. There will be a process put in place with meetings etc before they can make that decision. They should have policies on exactly what this process entails which you should be able to see. It's probably in their sickness policy but also worth looking at the disciplinary policy.

    My advice would be to keep talking to them, keep them updated about your progress/treatment. Ask to see the company policies in relation to sickness etc (if your company has a website they may be on there so you don't have to actually ask them). You can always look at advocacy services in your area - they can speak on your behalf, be there to support and guide you through meetings etc and help you get legal advice. Many advocacy services are free or a minimal fee. You could use a general advocate or a more specialist employment or mental health advocate.

    Good luck

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