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sadie1955
sadie1955

im pregnant for first time i have put this of for a long time because my mum committed suicide when i was a baby and i wanted to be sure i could handle everthing involved in being a mother BUT now im doubting myself i have a great husband but no close family to rely on.its too late to change my mind now and even when i think about it i feel guilty but its getting me down im so worried about how i will cope i feel vunerable because i have always been independant and i will obviously have to give up work for a while .im just tearful and worrying about everything im not an outgoing person and i dont want any negativity rubbing off on my baby.

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  • Skye
    Skye

    Posted

    Hi Sadie,

    Firstly, sorry about ur mum.

    Having a first baby is a scary thing!! I felt exactly the same way. What if Im a rotten mum? What if I don`t know what to do? SO MANY questions and doubts in my head.

    I think most people have these worries. Yours seem to be a little more exagerated POSSIBLY by what happened to your mum.

    Try and chill out, enjoy your pregnancy, and think of positive things. Im sure once your little baby is here....you will fly in to mum mode! I did....which amazed me completely ( I preferred dogs u see..lol).

    Take Care.

  • Pooh_bear
    Pooh_bear

    Posted

    Dear Sadie there are various voluntary agencies that can help ease you into motherhood. I found the National Childbirth trust classes very helpful. They will almost certainly run ante natal classes in your area as well as bumps and babies toddler and breast feeding groups. These groups continue informally after the birth of your child. They welcome parners as well. The ante natal classes aren't free but they will provide contact with other first time mums as well. Your local hospital will also provide free ante natal classes. I found the NCT ones the best. I also did aqua natal. If there is such a group your midwife will be able to put you in touch with them. If you have a 'named' midwife then I suggest you meet with her and tell her your concerns. Also getting to know your heatlh visitor is a good idea too. Some hospitals have open evenings where you can meet all these various people. I wish you well.
  • Clare88
    Clare88

    Posted

    Sorry about your mum.

    your going to be very anxious/worried about your pregnancy but im sure you'll get the hang of things and be a fantastic mum.

    good luck :D

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