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Jay182
Jay182

Hi I'm 23 years old, male. I won't go deep into this basically I'm the nicest person you'll ever meet, untill I have alcohol. For years I've been battling depression and possible bi polar disorder. I haven't got a problem with alcohol I'm not an alcoholic I don't crave it. I'll drink once a month if that but when I do, I seriously can't stop. I'm out for days. It's rare 1% I'll go home and have a nice night. I really can't do it. I've been to aa meetings and other meetings to only be told "just have a few, then stop" I've said countless times I cannot have 1. There doesn't seem to be any help out there except for myself just to say that's it. Enough is enough, I ain't doing this no more. Has any one had help that's helped? I'd really want to know because I can easily say no. But then when I do go out, I do drink. I know I can't but I keep telling myself "I'll be okay this time" even having pints of water in between, seriously nothing works I cannot drink end of.

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  • Aspinan
    Aspinan Jay182

    Posted

    Hi Jay, I'm in your boat defo find it difficult to stop after I've had just 1. I do tend to stop when I feel I've had enough though and have never had any black outs or periods where I can't remember what I did after a night. 

    I look forward to having a night out or a drink at home and at one time I drank almost every night but now it's just weekends or if I go out with a friend for a game of snooker , if I'm gigging (I'm a drummer) I defo curtail my drinking. 

    You have to find a healthy relationship with alcohol which "on the whole" I have, you have to find the same state somehow and drinking water or another soft drink in between is a great start. 

     

    • Jay182
      Jay182 Aspinan

      Posted

      Hey there. Thanks for taking the time to comment. I can't tell myself to stop and I won't and can't I have tried all my life it's an issue I can't drink at all. I do forget some episodes but most of the night I'll remember. It's a danger to me to even have one. I end up in all kinds of trouble because of it. I have been to countless meetings they've said the same drink water inbetween just have your limit, well I can't because I don't stop once I have one. I just think I need to quit totally full stop. But saying that it's very hard to. I'm also a drummer have been all my life haha. I'm a really chilled out guy I don't know why this happens to me.

  • RHGB
    RHGB Jay182

    Posted

    Hi Jay,

    I see you've been a member for 10 months and made 35 posts. Unfortunately you have turned off your post history/hidden it. It is really useful to see a person's previous posts so that we can get an idea of history and what has previously been discussed.

    It is of course optional and your choice, but it does help others to answer your question.

    • Jay182
      Jay182 RHGB

      Posted

      Hi, sorry for the delay in response. I think I've only made like 4 posts on here. I don't know how to turn it on, I've commented quit a lot though it may be that? By previous do you mean any post or just about drink? 

  • Robin2015
    Robin2015 Jay182

    Posted

    HI jay. A bit more about how much drink and how often. It helps to know more about your pattern and how you react. Obviously time to change which is good.
    • Jay182
      Jay182 Robin2015

      Posted

      Hi there, we'll years ago as a teen I got mixed up with the wrong crowd you could put it, and we'd go to ALOT of parties and I found myself drinking most days. I never thought anything of it but in the end I did find myself thinking of a drink as you would think of a cigarette if you smoked. So its been years since, I work full time so, I do love a drink come the weekend, I like to go out and socialise, I like the atmosphere just to let my hair down so to speak lol. I'll go out with a plan saying to myself I know the results of having to much there's always trouble. I only want say 6 beers and that's fine for me. Happy as Larry. But once I get there that voice that I told myself before in the night "not to many, cap it" fades away, and I just say one more and it turns into chaos I can't stop. I wanna stay out forever and a day and party on, it's terrible. I can go forever without a drink but I do enjoy the feeling of letting go and feeling drunk, drunk i find is better than paraletic, you still enjoy and can still function and remember and wake up without feeling dead, I just wish it would always be that way. I haven't drunk for ages, I attended two of my favourite rock festivals recently in the past few months and I drank at them and I behaved! Unbelievable for me, sounds silly, but I made it back to the hotel, no trouble, everything was fine. I don't know what it was, I had like 8 beers in the space of 6 hours in the festival along with loads of water as I kept telling myself hydrate or I suffer with bad hangovers lol. Pluss I was in the mosh pit maybe I lost all my energy there and I was happy rather than angry I'm really not sure. But 90% of the time I'll be angry drunk. But the last two times I've been out I've been happier than ever in the two concerts. I can't explain that, but I like to be that way instead, I want to remain that way. 

  • Robin2015
    Robin2015 Jay182

    Posted

    Great reply and perhaps you make a plan regarding your drinking. What would you like to achieve to feel better and under control?
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