Alcoholic mother - unsure what to do anymore

Go to your dad's even if you need to get a sofabed speaking from experience I lost my daughter to her grandparents when she was 8 but we have a strong bond now alcohol is evil but once it's got control logic hoes out window

Oh honey, I'm so sorry i feel your pain. I guess as i drink i worry how it affects my kids i don't drink through the day so I'm try to get help before i need to. Please but The Cure for Alcoholism by Roy Eskapa, there is hope for your mum, and I. X

Firstly well done for being so brave and sharing your experiences with us.  It sounds like your in an extremely difficult situation and you’re very young to be having to manage all of this. As your dad has moved out and is fully aware of the impact that your mums drinking has on those close to her, would he be willing to help you? Could you stay with him and your sister until you and your dad could find a bigger place? Maybe talk to him about this. It may sound selfish but your best bet is to focus on you. It doesn’t mean you care any less about your mum, but like you say if you spend the majority of your time caring for her, your needs are forgotten. She will only access help when/if she wants to stop drinking, until then she will continue, and when u see the influence she is not likely to take on board what you are telling her. Build a happier and more stable environment with those that understand what you are going through like you dad and sister, focus on your interests and hobbies, and care for you mum from a distance. Easier said then done but a small start can bring about a huge change eventually. Thinking of you and hope things improve xxx

Hi Emily, your mother sounds just like me. My two daughters were my victims of my alcoholic abuse from the age of 6/7. I was a "victim of a victim" by which I mean my own mother witnessed physical abuse with her mother/father. By natural progression, she physically and mentally abused me and my sister, tortuously. I cannot repeat the abuse as it was so horrific, but I would say definitively, not sexual. Therein lies your mother's problem. Something, someone, has traumatised your mother to the extent, like me, she sees nothing and nobody except pain, hurt, humiliation and lack of any kindness or love.

Now, it took me until I was 65 yrs old. My kids were exhausted, I was exhausted and nothing mattered any more. My mother died at 95, and I rejoiced. I went to my doctor only then, I said the witch was dead at last, and she immediately sent me to a Councillor. I went for 6 months, and found that I could not remove the lost 65 yrs of abuse, but she did remove her from my brain which helped regain so much love and laughter with my two daughters.

Emily, try to get to the bottom of your mother's anguish, why she hates herself? What makes her drink? Triggers ?Make an appointment with your doctor and explain everything YOU are going through. You definitely need help and advice, but more so, does your mother, beforshe kills herself with booze.

My heart and soul goes out to you my lovely, it must be traumatic to know what to do next. Feel free to contact me if you get desperate.

Love and a huge hug 💕👄💕