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this is a cry for help as i've tried almost everything else that i can think of.
i met my partner online 3 years ago, she is from spain and for the first year we dated traveling back and forth fro spain to the uk and vice versa. during this time she became pregnant with my child. we both decided to start a family and move in together here in the Uk. now our baby girls is almost 14 months old and a couple of months ago we found out we are expecting another. i was not happy with this and wanted a termination but due to my partners religious beliefs refused. Now in fairness having another child was always in the cards but the timing of it was not great due to my partner being an alcoholic and having a re-lapse.
the measures we have taken are AA meetings, path to recovery sessions (for those of you who dont know what that is, is a therapy group) she also suffers anxiety and depression. her alcohol missuse has been classed as not a dependency but an emotional triggered problem. so because shes not getting drunk every single day they wont send her to rehab. she is getting drunk 3 or 4 times a week.
we have involved child services who put a restriction on her which means she wasnt allowed to be alone with our baby girl, so my parents very kindly helped with that one. she has lost a job because she turned up to work drunk and therefore at the moment i am the only one who brings home an income. so whilst child services were involved she was brilliant and the services finally lifted the restriction which was a great relief for us all.
she lasted a week without the restriction and has started drinking again. i have personally put that restriction back in place to ensure my childs safety. when i arrive back hone after work she is absalutely legless drunk again 3 or 4 times a week. with her permission i have all her cash and cards locked away whilst i am away but she still manages to find a way to get the alcohol. ive hunted around the house and found stashes of empty cans hidden away in really obscure places and little stashes of money too.
i need some advice please.
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