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alcoholic son

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littlelostsoul
littlelostsoul

My son has always been a heavy drinker, 42 now, he started at 15 by getting in with the wrong crowd.

1 and half litres sherry, 5 cans cider and few glasses of wine DAILY now, he is having 200+ units a week, he has a huge beer belly and a bloated face.

I have tried talking to him but he just says he likes drinking.

He's a lovely man even drunk but he cannot go on like this.

I do not know what to do to help him

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  • susiepoo
    susiepoo

    Posted

    I'm so sorry, i am 37 and drink far too much.. i have made my parents terribly worried, i can't talk to them anymore as they are too upset. I have no idea, really, what to tell you, but pressure is very difficult- it makes it worse. I think that what i'm trying to say that as much as parents love us (i am a mum) you cannot save your' children from everything. I think your' son needs another outlet to talk about his problems, drinkline is very good. Or friends, you cant tell him what to do, but you can make it clear that you will support him, whatever happens.. if he's anything like me he will be scared, the only thing that helps me is that even when i've been badly behaved, i know that my mum and dad will still be there, unconditional love..

    i wish you and your' son the very best

  • littlelostsoul
    littlelostsoul

    Posted

    Hi susie,

    My son does not admit he has a problem so will not acknowledge he needs help. He just says he can give up anytime he wants but he doesn't want to......

    Had a serious talk with him a couple of months ago (we do get on incredibly well), told him how worried I was, he listened then said he did not want to give up drinking as he enjoys it.

    I promised I would not bring it up again now that I had had my say. Guess I am just waiting for the physical fallout, there will definately be one sometime in the not too distant future with the amount he drinks.

    Hope you manage to at least cut down on the drink Susie, you really do not need it,

    take care

  • susiepoo
    susiepoo

    Posted

    Thank you for replying, all i can say is that he does not enjoy it.. i have had the physical fallout, and the mental one.. and i still struggle... i hold down a very demanding job, and 2 children on my own, i shut my parents out, but i would be living in a cardboard box if it wasn't for them

    don't underestimate your' worth, if someone still cares it means there is a point in living, and trying to get better..

    you take care of yourself too...

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