All my friends are having sex with many girls all the time and I can't even get a date? It makes me

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hey guys

i hope you are well.

im 27 year old guy and recently been noticing how all my friends seem to get sex easily with so many girls and seen as i love on my own now it makes me feel 'how the hell do they do that and get away with it?' when will i be able to get that?

having has several serious relationships i have always wished to have friends with benefits situation for a while, but cant seem to find any girl willing.

the thing i wonder is its soo hard but how do so many people do it so easily with that many girls?

please help with any advice as i feel a bit left out if u know what i mean

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    I'm afraid you have got the wrong end of the stick,!! LIfe is not all about sex at your age men and woman give themselves a complex because they think sex is for everyone.

    Not so, sex when it happens should be between mature consenting adults, making sure that they keep themselves free from disease. Having sex is not a mature way to talk about it, men can callous towards their opposite partner male and female it's not a thing to openly discuss, but you have so to come to the point.

    If it's meant to happen it will, a persons feeling are wrapped up in the act, so don't hurt someone just because your not getting your end away, you will be surprised by how many female like you and have respect for you because your not easy, that is a good way to have a lasting relationship.

    Think about it.

    God bless


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    Have you ever wondered why men seem to have far more sex than women? It's probably because they think they have to big themselves up by bragging about it so make stuff up..

    There's nothing wrong with casual sex if it's what you both want and you keep each other safe. But generally, at some point, one person is going to want more from the relationship and then the trouble begins.

    You say you've had several serious relationships? So you're obviously attractive to women right? Maybe you're just a more relationship kind of guy and that's probably a good thing.

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      hi hi Lucy thanks for your reply I understand what you're saying and you are probably correct.

      trouble trouble is for a guy my age after not having sex for more than a year you begin to feel very alone and left out. the also makes me wonder when will it happen if it's taking so long if you know what I mean.

      As another thing I've noticed is it seems to me that the guys who have sex frequently in casualty are the ones who get more of it

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      I get that, honestly. But are you sure all your friends are getting it so often? Could they be exaggerating? There seems to be so much pressure to be having sex more frequently than rabbits that it makes us feel inadequate if we don't think we match up to that expectation. So many people will lie about their sex lives so that they feel like they fit in.

      Actually, at 27 it's not at all uncommon to have long gaps between partners - it's just that you don't hear about all those people because they're not bragging about it.

      I'm sure if you wanted to, you could walk into any club and walk out with a woman to have sex with that night. If that's what you want, go for it. It's nothing to be ashamed about. And maybe you'll even find a friend with benefits that way. In some ways it does sound like the perfect relationship.

      But do what YOU want to do. Not what you think society and your friends think you should be doing.

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      Haha yes i know what u mean. Thing is from what i know, there are lots of women who seem to gravitate towards only guys who r regularly active and will not go near more moderate guys if u know what i mean.

      this in turn makes it almost impossible to attract them and its becoming harder to find girls of a similar mindset who r not just sluts.

      On the other side of the coin when i become and feel lonely, i keep thinking 'I just want it from anyone' but ofcourse know thats not good and thus just get frustrated.

      do u know what i mean?

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      it also doesnt help that i have had several health problems recently and other struggles. as well as loosing my hair at this age, due to meds i was taking which again causes frustration as its yet another barrier, that whether or not women say they dont care they really do in most cases.

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    Honestly its completely normal and you dont have to do what your friends do.your time will come.i think its way better to find a girl that will love you for what you are and not for sex.

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