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rose191093
rose191093

So I don't want to come across as naive or silly, but I'm looking for some opinions on my alcohol consumption. My father is an alcoholic, he's been sober for years now but he had a rough time until then. He wasn't a regular drinker, but a binge drinker, couldn't stop when he started. He's always been protective where drink is concerned and is constantly warning me. I'm worried that I will fall into the same trap. I've never been a big drinker, having been rapes as a teen I don't like the loss of control so I will stop when I feel a certain level of drunk. I don't have worries there, but lately I've been concerned. I've never been able to stand my own company, I get bored and and, smoke more than usual and my mins goes wild thinking of all the things I don't want to. I suffer from depression and anxiety but not seriously bad, I have a good hold on it, I have a long term partner I spend most nights with but on the nights he is working and stays at his and I am alone with no plans I seem to spend it the same way. Drinking an entire bottle of bayleys to myself and going to sleep. The point I will walk from my home, to the shop to buy the bottle because I can't think of any other way to spend my evening. I realise this isn't very good but I've never had problems with drink or gone out that much, I never had the teenage years of getting drunk and passing out or throwing up everywhere so I also don my view it as that bad. It's about once a week at the moment. Sorry for the long post. Thank you

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  • Robin2015
    Robin2015 rose191093

    Posted

    Qute a long and confusing post. You have a lot of issues to deal with. Do you have any friends or brothers and sisters? Just wondering. A bottle of Baileys also seems  a lot. We do not know your approximately age....Robin
    • rose191093
      rose191093 Robin2015

      Posted

      Apologies... I'm 23, I have 5 singlings, all half and much older. Between 30 and 44

  • mary8693
    mary8693 rose191093

    Posted

    Rose,  just try to keep an eye on and control your drinking.

    Hug,

    M x

    • gwen45436
      gwen45436 rose191093

      Posted

      I love Baileys - but just one or two.  It is so very high in sugar and will mess your insulin levels up.

      You are young enough to get this down.  Boredom does not help alcohol issues but you can sort it out.  Chatting about it and showing your concern is the first step and well done for that.

  • JulieAnne101
    JulieAnne101 rose191093

    Posted

    Hi Rose

    You need to find another interest. You are clearly bored and need to fill your time with a hobby that doesnt involve drinking.

    Have a look online and see what is happening in your area.

    I don't know how many units of alcohol there are in a bottle of Baileys, but it is going to be quite high as Bailey's is made with Whiskey.

    I believe the recommended weekly amount of units for women is 14. A bottle of white wine is about 9 so a bottle of Bailey's might be more. Its also high in sugar.

    That's ok if you keep to this amount. Be careful, alcohol intake can creep up on you

    Kind Regards

    JulieAnne

  • kelly71703
    kelly71703 rose191093

    Posted

    Hi Rose.

    You may find over time your drinking may creep up

    Unless you deal with it now. Boredom loneliness, depression,anxiety all common reasons for drinking. They only get worse.plus you also have the guilt.try and find something to do,bake a cake,share it with a neighbour,try arrange going to the cinema once a week with someone.

    I never anticipated that my weekend binges would escalate to the extent they have and now I'm struggling to get my life back after years of sitting at home crying into a bottle. My health or lack of makes drinking like this and living impossible so now I feel I have nothing left as friends and family left me to the bottle years ago. Its a sad existence.

    Don't let it happen to you. I think any amount of alcohol at home on your own is too much really. It's the context and reasons that make it too much.

    I know this reply is a bit rambly.

    • Robin2015
      Robin2015 kelly71703

      Posted

      very honest reply Kelly and very good advice. I often drank alone when I was unemployed and my wife at work...bored and got cheap blue cider....no good....great that you are honest and trying to hlep Rose. Robin
  • kelly71703
    kelly71703 rose191093

    Posted

    Thanks Gwen, Robin.

    Just sharing my experience really, hope it gives some insight to someone who hopefully will never go there.

  • rose191093
    rose191093

    Posted

    Thank you for sharing and I appreciate all your comments. I just needed some perspective and didn't want to ask family in case my father heard and got concerned. I will find something to stop my boredom and just me more aware of my choices

    Rose x

    • mary8693
      mary8693 rose191093

      Posted

      Rose,

      It makes sense what you say.

      I wish you strength and keep posting,

      M x

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