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Am I falling out of love or am I depressed?

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sam79416
sam79416

Hello everyone,

I'm together with my boyfriend for 1 year now, after few months of dating I moved in with him and his family because it was a complete lockdown and i'm a foreigner in the country.

Everything was unexpectedly perfect, we were living together in the same place for 3 months and it was amazing. Then had to leave to another country for one month, and I moved to another house.

After he came back we decided to rent a place together. To be honest I didn't like the house so much it's too small and dark. I had a mental breakdown 3 days after we moved together and I started doubting my feeling towards him, I was super anxious whenever I see him, and ask myself if I still love him. I decided to go to my friend's place for few days then I came back, everything went back to normal, he's really amazing and caring, and he stood fully by my side. Now after 3 months, I started to have the same thoughts again, I wake up in the morning I start crying, I started criticizing him and feeling that he's not doing much with his life, I felt bored of seeing him all the time, since everything is closed outside and we have nowhere to go.

I went again to my friend's house to clear my mind, but it seems so hard for me to decide. Whenever I think about losing him I freak out and I start crying a lot, and when I think about going back to live with him in the same house, I feel anxious about the same feelings happening again.

I'm not able to think about anything else all day, I wake up in the morning with very negative thoughts and feelings, and my mind keeps saying that I don't love him any more, but deep down I feel that we're perfect for each other, I've never felt loved and cared for and comfortable in a relationship as with him and I can't picture myself with someone else.

What should I do? I'm really lost

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  • sam18386
    sam18386 sam79416

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    hello to my namesake! i couldn't leave you stuck after what you wrote. hmm you could be depressed maybe and may give you some doubt in your mind. you must speak to your doctor and ask about help with depression, if you really had fallen out of love with him then why would you stay with him?

  • little_bird
    little_bird sam79416

    Posted

    I have seen A LOT of posts like this here. I am also feeling like you and I have posted my problem here before. You can read it and see if it helps you. Forgive me for asking but how is your sex life with him? because good sex solves 90% of womens problems in relationships (in my opinion)

  • joshuapryce1987
    joshuapryce1987 sam79416

    Posted

    You have have to communicate to your partner your feelings and work things out with him. You also have to let the bird fly and stop holding on so close to him. Communicate and be intimate with him, and things will naturally fall into place.

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